My Sister The Lazy DeadbeatWater and oil are the words I would use to describe us. The fact that we are 21 years apart makes it even worse. I don't hate her but I swear if we didn't come from the same mother, we wouldn't have anything to do with the other.
We got along neutrally for a while but now she is really starting to irk me. She's turning into a complete leech. Actually she has always been a leech but it's gone from bad to worse since she lost her job due to economic downsizing. Now that wasn't her fault and I was sympathetic. I even took the little money I had to fill up her gas tank. However my mother forbidden me from ever doing that again and explained to my sister that I just happened to get a refund because I used old books at college. I was a little taken aback at the time but later I realized that my mother was indirectly protecting me from my sister's leeching ways.
My distaste for her is growing because she is making NO effort to get back to work. She sat on her butt and collected unemployment while asking for money from the family. That's it. She would turn her nose up at jobs because the wage wasn't high enough or she didn't want to work nights or weekends. She had worked her way up to assistant manger before she was laid off. Unfortunately she never got her high school diploma. So she believes someone would hire her on experience alone? Not to mention that she's in her mid-forties and over 300 pounds.
We (the family) mentioned that she should at least get her GED and reinvent herself. She refused. She was embarrassed she didn't finish and don't want her 3 kids-- one 15, one 12 and one 10-- to know and especially not her live in boyfriend who belittles her any chance he gets. And like the kids aren't going to find out anyway??? I mean you can't even become a lunch lady without a GED now...
Well, she continued to do nothing for the next two years---even after the unemployment extension---and only when her benefits expired that's when she began to press the panic button. Her live in boyfriend and the father of 2 out of 3 kids tried to run out on her. More than once. So far I counted five times (in the past 2 years) but each time has no where to go. He's a 550 pound, 55 year, disabled old coot and nobody wants him. He's very unpleasant and obnoxiously arrogant. He also has a potty mouth and verbally/emotionally abuses her. We (the family) invited her and her children under our roof. She refused and wants to stay with her live-in boyfriend who is only acting nice recently because she won 2,000 dollars from the lottery and I repeat he has no where to go.
It pains me to see my sister making poor choices like this but what pains me the most is that she is constantly dragging our family into her woes. Always sucking up our time, resources and draining my mother (who worries about her). My parents aren't rich and are in their sixties looking toward retirement. She needs to get a hold of herself and become independent. I lost a lot of respect for her because she simply isn't trying. She doesn't want to work and is completely content to live off the government or any person who she can leech off. Including her own children. She wants her 15 year old to start working NOW. Sad thing is my nephew is lazy too (gee, I wonder where he got it from) and very materialistic, so I don't know how that's going to work out....
I'm rather protective of my parents so the leeching will have to stop. Especially after her children are grown. I'm a little worried that it will cause a rift in the family but let the chips fall where they may. Unless she gets off her butt and makes an effort, I'm not lifting a finger.