Let's Help Each Other

One thing I have learned from my time on EP is that not everyone shares all the hurt that is inside them in their posts.  There is the mom who is losing her six year old son to cancer. There is the young woman who just wants to make her “alters” disappear and go back to being herself.  There is the woman that has a chronic illness and some days can’t get out of bed but always finds time to get on EP to support those in her circle and never asks for anything in return other than friendship. There is the man that is doing all he can trying to keep his wife and five children in a home, but circumstances beyond his control find him facing foreclosure.  Did I mention this man has a terminal illness and isn’t expected to make it to 2011?  There is the young widow raising her three young children by herself while attending college trying to better their lives.  There is another woman who was planning her wedding and future with her fiancé one evening and the next morning got the most horrific news anyone could, when he was tragically taken away from her.  There is the woman that is bravely facing cancer not knowing if she will have tomorrow but fighting it for the sake of her children. There is the young man living with HIV and trying to help others that are as well to better understand.  There is the man that his daughter has been missing for a decade but still is searching and holding out hope he will find her alive somewhere.  There is the custodial father that left a physically abusive spouse and took his kids with him.  He is raising his children all alone rather than to see his children raised in an alcoholic and abusive climate. There are the many members of our military that are missing their loved ones back home as they are deployed and those men and women at home trying to deal with their deployment. There are the young ones that think their lives aren’t worth living and would like to end it immediately and just give it all up.  There are the transgendered individuals that would just like to be accepted and understood by those in their lives.  There are the persons that are afraid to recognize their true sexuality because of fear for what others will judge them to be. There are the persons that have lost a child, had a miscarriage, or simply can't have children and want them desperately but will never have this dream fulfilled.  There are those that were, or are. being mentally, physically or sexually abused and live with this reality daily in their lives.  Then there are the countless persons that live sexually, physically, or mentally deprived lives.  There are those that are depressed that do not need additional stress in their lives but I see it happening every day on EP.

What do these persons have in common other than they are all my friends?  None of them focus on what is negative in their lives and focus on what is positive. They may mention these things in passing in their stories but this is not their focus of their time on EP but for the most part you would never know the negative side of their life.  My point in posting this story is that I want us all to stop and think when we are commenting on someone’s story what could potentially be going on in a person’s life.   I wish we could stop hating people simply because we perceive that their life is better than ours. I wish we could stop the jealousies that are being displayed.  I wish that we could all be supportive of one another which was the original intent of the founder for this site. I wish that rather than bringing others down, we could focus more on building one another up.  Who is with me on this?

fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
46-50, F
18 Responses Feb 20, 2010

Thanks bunches ALY, ((hugs))

You are always respectful Rog. ((hugs sweetie))

:) I always appreciate you sweetie.

Thanks TZ. I love you hon.

awesome point. and very well said. :)

Okay... Let me go get the pieces of wood for my trellis. I will have you being one of the highest climbing roses in the neighborhood.

your welcome.

Thanks demi.. No one should be fearful of being abused. Thanks for sharing.<br />
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me, nanananananananana! seriously, thanks for always coming to my rescue letting me spread my wings and letting me fight my battles when I can.<br />
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LF, thank you sweetie<br />
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Lena, I think you are right and it is just sad that sometimes people have to bring others down to feel good about themselves.<br />
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She Wolf, Thank you for your comments. I hate to see others hurting and will always speak out against it.

Amazing story. You described me in your story. Thank you for speaking out.

wow...such an amazing story!

Fungirlmmm, You have hit a cord that I hope everyone on this site reads. Why do we tear others down without pity or remorse, when it is just as easy to listen and virtully pat them on the back. I totally agree with you on this and you have my full support and also my respect. This is a story that needed to be written. Cuddos on this.<br />
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Also, I am really pissed that I didn't think of it first.........

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I nearly BECAME A "CYBER LAWYER" and there are LAWS "ON THE BOOKS" about internet DURESS of someone... However, so few people apply themselves to ADDRESS THE ABUSERS just as in "REAL LIFE" and it could be due to the lack of INTEGRITY in THE COURT ROOMS that have how often WRONGLY INCARCERATED AN INNOCENT LIFE ACROSS THE USA due to this INDIVIDUAL does NOT have that all powerful FOOL's $ to gain what? CERTAINLY NOT WHAT IS JUST for IN A JUST COMMUNITY yes, IN A JUST SOCIETY there is NO "___why that one is poor so slap this PRISON ON TERM of GREAT WRONG to that LIFE there and why that one has some SLIMEY $ so let that one go!" CRIMES "I HEAR" and YOU HEAR AND OTHERS TOO HEAR AND SPEAK OF IS AN OUTRAGE ACROSS THE USA! OUTRAGE!<br />
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GOOD that YOU mention what is ON MY THOUGHTS often HERE as well as in other "ONLINE COMMUNITIES" which is the DUTY TO ONE ANOTHER IN A MANNER THAT IS UNIFORM WITH APPRECIATING AND NOT BULLYING! NOT BIGOTRY! AND NOT OTHER ELEMENTS OF PRESSURING "ENTITLEMENTS" ONTO INTENDED VICTIMS such as too commonly EXCUSED in the school yards of the elementary, secondary and even so "university" campuses across the USA where SHAMEFULLY the continued OPPRESSION OF FEMALES ARE COMMON and the OPPRESSION OF THE POOR AMONG us IS IMMENSE and the OPPRESSION OF OTHERS "NON WHITE" HAS CONTINUED... the heteroism CRIMES AGAINST FEMALES IS VERY COMMON INCLUSIVE RAPE CRIME AND RAPE MONGERING AND EXPLOITING FEMALES... the CRIMES AGAINST GAY CITIZENS CONTINUES in another HEINOUS CRIME of BIGOTRY... AMONG other OPPRESSIVE ACTIONS of TERRORISM of the USA in its NOT addressing CRIME though OWED TO ALL of us OF EVERY NATION... for what the USA does allow and instigate in CRIME in its "home land" IT IS INSTIGATING ELSEWHERE!<br />
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YOU HAVE VOICED WHAT MANY CITIZENS ACROSS MANY NATIONS HOLD DEAR:<br />
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RESPONSIBILITY TO EACH OTHER.<br />
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t.y.

Thank you tasmin ((hugs))

This story badly needed to be written .. and you have written it admirably.

Thanks sweets. I just posted it this morning,

Thanks y'all. I just get so upset at the careless acts of others and see the damage is causes behind the scenes to these people. Some end up leaving EP because of it and this is a place of acceptance. People should only leave because they have dealt with their concerns. They should not be leaving due to cyber harassment and stalking.

You are gifted, your ability to amaze me never stops, it is a pleasure knowing you

Thanks Saving, ((hugs my friend))