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I Don't Like That ' We're Not Talking ' Feeling

When In The Wrong, He Clammed Up

By: temporaryvanity
Written on May 10th, 2011
My ex used to be so beautiful to me. He did everything correctly when he was with me-- everything except communicate about our situation. I was foolishly in love with a married man for over a year. He promised to leave his wife (I never asked him, he volunteered this to me) and I foolishly hung on. But when I would ask him, he would be evasive and it would turn into a disagreement. And that is when he shut down. Just gave me the silent treatment. I wouldn't hear from him for days. It was wrong of him.

I will never be with a man like that again. I will search for an expressive, loving man who communicates well. I have learned so much.
By: temporaryvanity
Age: 26-30 , Female
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    temporaryvanity
    temporaryvanity

    Thank you for your comment. I am feeling much better these days. It was a mistake. Won't make it again.

    Jul 22, 2011
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    Tuck
    Tuck

    IN a private survey an old lady friend and I did, we found that men and women have a hard time

    being truthful about certain things. For women it is their weight.

    Fort men it is their marital status.

    It is sad to see so many really lovely women getting hurt by the claim that he is going to leave his wife for you. Not many women are open about being so wrongly treated. Thank you for having the courage to tell us about it T.

    Yes, it is hard to get the heart to change.

    Jul 20, 2011
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    temporaryvanity
    temporaryvanity

    Looking back, his position was indefensible. What could he say to me? More empty promises? I am an intelligent woman. He knew it would not work. The relationship was doomed from the start. I have learned my lesson. But the heart wants what the heart wants.

    May 24, 2011
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    nwtrdr33
    nwtrdr33

    I think he clammed for defensive reasons because he could not come out and tell you he was really leaving his wife.That is a good choice to find someone that communicates I think you will have a much better relationship when you do find someone like that.Thank you for sharing your story.

    May 19, 2011
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    temporaryvanity

    Lesson learned. Thank you. :)

    May 18, 2011
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    bluie19
    bluie19

    I'm glad you are out of that mess. I believe communication plays a vital role in any relationship. I hope you find the right guy :)

    May 18, 2011
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