I've been with my girlfriend over a year and a half now, I love her, I'm comfortable with her, she's become like family to me.
Yet, when we get into a fight, as all couples do, she's very opinionated, and if she gets mad or upset, she'll yell. And what's weird, she wants me to yell back. She feels like I express my problems better when I yell and am not telling her the whole story when I don't "fight back." I've tried yelling, I've tried getting mad, but I just can't yell at her. If I do it, I feel immediately horrible, just because I've grown up with my mom and dad yelling at each other most of my life, and I've seen how much it hurts both of them when they do yell. I was also yelled at a lot by my dad, and I hate yelling, I just really can't stand it, and immediately back off if someone starts to.
I just don't know what to do with my girlfriend, because she wants me to stand up for myself and yell, but I'd rather work things out without yelling, without those high crazy emotions, because I just can't bring myself to yell at her. I care too much about her.