I Woke Up One Day And Realized I Didn't Love Him
I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. After several bad experiences dating men who were abusive and/or unstable, I thought I'd really found the one. We were even looking at apartments together last fall, and discussing getting married after we finished college.
However, after we decided we weren't ready for that step, I really began reflecting on my relationship with him. We lived 300 miles apart at the time, and the distance was starting to wear on me. He was out of work and seemed to be depressed, spending all his time watching TV and playing video games (he was suspended from college for a year because of his bad grades). I came close to breaking up with him, but he then transferred to my school so we wouldn't have to be apart anymore.
Since then, things have only gotten worse. He's become exceptionally clingy and possessive, even going so far as to get a job at the same place where I work. He's also started talking about some very disturbing things lately, like wanting to go on killing sprees or hit people with his car (he also told me he had been considering suicide while we were living apart). For a long time, I always thought he was joking, but now I'm not sure. He also has a very violent temper (he broke my roommate's snow shovel one day when he was pissed about his car acting up).
I want to break up with him, but I don't know how. Not only am I worried about him causing harm to himself, or others, I worry he might try to hurt me or my friends (who he hates completely). Also, I met someone last summer who I'm very interested in, and even though we haven't done anything yet, my boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him, so I'm worried that no matter what reason I give for breaking up with him, he's going to go ballistic because he thinks I've been unfaithful.
If anyone has any advice, I could really really use some. :(