Shot Gun Wedding

I am so confused and so very unhappy. I do not know what to do. I am 27 years old and have been married for 10 yrs (together for 12 years) and have 2 beautiful children with my husband. I have always thought I was so very in love with my husband. I no longer believe that is the case. A year and a half ago I went on a 5 day business trip to Dallas, TX. I came back to find he was cheating on me with an old high school classmate. When confronted he told me he was leaving me for her (all just days before Christmas). I begged him not to go. He decided to stay and I began to resent him and slowly fall out of love.

I left him and got a place of my own. After several threats from him of suicide I decide to try to work things out. I allowed him to move in with me... Now I am extremely unhappy and definitely not in love. Every time I try to end it he cries and I cave and stay. I want out but feel guilty and selfish. I don't know what to do. I feel guilt, selfish, scared (of being a single mother), but I am so unhappy. I do not know what to do :'(
cutiebee1985 cutiebee1985
26-30, F
2 Responses May 28, 2012

I worry too much about my husband's well being as well. I was afraid to leave when we separated because he wasn't emotionally stable. I ended up learning (through a therapist) that we both needed to concentrate on being strong individually.

Life is so short we only get one shot. Almost half of your life has been spent in this marriage. Step back and evaluate what it is you want from this short life write it down. Ask your husband to do the same. You might be surprised by the answers. Go from there.