My Parents

My parents are hardcore Christians. I am an atheist. Whenever I'm talking to them, I get the sense that they're waiting for me to bust out an apology. "I'm sorry I'm not who you want me to be. I'll keep my atheism to myself and I'll keep my mind open to god." Um... no. I did have my mind open - for a very long time. It took me years to realize who I am today. I'm not going to apologize for that, I'm going to be proud of it.
kleisse kleisse
22-25, F
1 Response Sep 21, 2011

i'm not an atheist, but my situation with my very religious parents is very much the same as yours.<br />
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Of course you don't need to apologize, if your happy with your life choices, you should be proud of them. That is how i feel about my choices, but my parents are a really important to me and having a good relationship with them is more important to me than reminding them how much i disagree with some of the things they believe. So i do sort of keep it to myself most of the time. They know i disagree, but that does not stop me from still listening patiently to the things they say. There is still wisdom they can give me.

See, the thing is... I do keep to myself, unless I am asked outright. I don't want to cause trouble but I'm not going to lie when asked. But even though I am silent, I am causing some sort of problem for just being what I am...

Well if you are handling the situation in a mature manner and still being honest (as you should) there is nothing more for you to do really.

It is obviously something they still need to come to terms with. i suppose they are just worried about your salvation (you might not believe in it, but it is a very real danger to them, and they would not be very good parents if they then didn't worry a little bit).

i don't know the dynamic of your relationship with your parents, but maybe sitting them down and explaining to them the way you feel and the vibes you get off them will help. Open channels of communication help any relationship.

The very best of luck to you