NO Love For Sister

I SENT LETTER TO MY SISTER ASKING HER TO MOVE IN WITH MY PARENTS. MY DAD HAS ALSZHAIMERS AND MOM WORKS 2 JOBS AND TAKES CARE OF HIM. SIS LIVES IN SAME TOWN. I'M 1.5 HOURS AWAY. SIS NOT MARRIED AND HAS 1 15YR OLD. I'M MARRIED 2 KIDS 9 AND 16. IN LETTER I TOLD HER I HAD NO $. I USE TO...A LOT BUT WIFE BOT A BUS. 5 YR AGO AND WE LOST EVERYTHING, AND FILED BANKRUPTCY IN LATE 05

I HAVE NEVER BEEN CLOSE TO SISTER. OR DAD. I HAVE VERY FEW GOOD MEMORIES. ALL I CAN REMEMBER IS US FIGHTING AND NOT GETTING ALONG. HE WOULD ALWAYS MAKE ME WORK AT A YOUNG AGE ON THE WEEKENDS WITH HIM. YARD, GARAGE, HOUSE. WE SELDOM WENT OUT AND DID THINGS THAT WOULD BE FUN TO A 10YR OLD. BY AGE 16 I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL AND WORKING 40HRS WEEK. NOT BECAUSE WE NEEDED $ BUT HE WOULD NOT BUY MY CAR. I HAVE WORKED MY ENTIRE LIFE FROM AGE 16. I PUT MYSELF THROUGH COLLEGE WITH STUDENT LNS. IN SUMMER HE MADE ME WORK AT LOCAL FACTORY. ALL WE EVER DID WAS FIGHT

MY SISTER CALLED ME LAST NIGHT AND SAID I HOW DARE HER I ASK HER TO MOVE IN WITH THEM AND THAT I WAS A SOB, SELFESS, CONCEITED A-HOLE. MY SISTER HAS NEVER DONE ANYTHING WITH HER LIFE. SHE IS IN THE SAME SMALL, DEAD, DYING TOWN. ALWAYS DEPENDING ON MY PARENTS. SHE HAS MADE BAD DECISION AFTER BAD ALL HER LIFE. SHE TOLD ME HOW TERRIBLE I'VE BEEN AS A SON AND BROTHER. I ADMIT MY FAULTS AND MISTAKES AND TRY TO BE A BETTER MAN EACH DAY. HER RESPONSE TOOK ME OF GUARD. I GUESS I LOVED MY SISTER BUT WAS NEVER IN LOVE. I CRIED ALL NIGHT LONG THINKING MAYBE SHE IS RIGHT. I'M TRYING TO RAISE MY 16YR OLD SON ALSO AND I GUESS I'M DOING IT WRONG. I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME AND WHY I'M SUCH A BAD PERSON

RD RD
46-50, M
4 Responses Apr 23, 2007

i agree with everyone else your not the bad parson here she is good luck

Please don't think of yourself as being a bad person. For some reason there is always one person in the family that everyone dumps on and you happen to be the one in your family. I know the feeling because I'm the one in my family. Stick to your guns. It's time someone else stepped up and helped out for a change.

I agree with Emerald. She's being selfish and I hope she comes around soon. Good luck!

If you admit your sister continues to live off the parents, and she continues to make bad decissions... why did her words take you by such surprise??!! She had to get this "unwanted" responsibility off her shoulders, and the best way , dear brother, was to put the heat on you, and convince you it was YOUR RIGHT to do this deed, and why! Selfish people ARE SLICK! That's how they continue to take and take for so long. Obviously, you are in this on your own! My heart goes out to you! And the bad part is: If you make a major decission concerning your parents that she doesn't like... you're probably gonna catch even MORE of her sharp tongue!! ( just an UNWANTED warning there! lol) I hope for all the family's sake, she will come around soon!