The story is simple really, my mother and I moved miles away about 5 years ago. Since then I had no contact with him whatsoever. When I realized I wanted to , I tried but with no success. I remember I once called him in 08 and finally got through, he said he would call me back. He called back and i think he said how are ya, good . I gotta go ill call you. I never got a call back. I even asked his sister about his whereabout and how he's doing and such but nothing. I emailed him back in nov and got vague responses that varied from " i don't want to talk to any family" to "I dont want any contact, i am in a bad time of life" and to i think it was "im fine how are you" very vague emails. Not much communication.
I then emailed a short one saying I loved him regardless and wanted to welcome him into my life and never got a response back. (this was all in nov)
And then it turned out that he had spoken to his sister and my niece , who live in canada btw as do i!, around christmas time. Sort of like a merry christmas call. I didn't get one, nor did i get an email.
I don't really know what the deal with him is, I mean i used to be curious to know you know? But now I just figure well, let bygones be bygones. It's not that I gave up on a relationship of some sort, Ill welcome him or any one at any time really! But I can't force him.