Its not gonna happen. Friendship? sure. Family? i guess. Sexually? yea probably. Anything in between? fat chance. I am not even convinced about the whole "love"thing minus the romantic aspect.  I don't seem to be the dating type. I hurt people too much in all relationships i am part of.

I guess time will tell but it doesn't look so good.

Tacit Tacit
22-25, F
3 Responses Oct 8, 2008

You need to calm down and relax and be patient. <br />
Nothing will happen if you just imagined it and then impatiently wanted it now! that's wrong. You should think first..if you were a mean person what is your future going to be..what if you were a good person? you see you must think first what will happen if i did this and the most important thing is to think positively and be ready for the negative parts. That's life and there is more. your man will come to you in time just wait.

Thanks. When i say i 'hurt' them i mean many different things. I am often pushed away and i must conclude that i have hurt them or done something wrong.<br />
I don't obsess about it too much. Its just something looming in the back of my mind

You're young yet. Don't lose hope. My sister is 32 and she just met the first guy who really loved her romantically. Just keep approaching the world with hope and you'll find someone.<br />
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In the mean time, maybe you should try to work through why you hurt people so much. Maybe it's to hurt them before they hurt you. Maybe it's to try and test their love. Maybe it's that you're just not being aware enough of them. Or maybe it's something totally different.<br />
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Either way, it's hard to be in a romantic relationship with someone that is healthy unless you've gotten yourself figured out. Don't give up yet.