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I Don't Want to Get Married...

because I really don't see the point.  Even when a relationship is going well, marriage doesn't seem to make it better - usually it's the opposite!  Plus I see very view of examples of people who stay HAPPILY married for long periods of time.  I'd rather be in an unmarried relationship that lasts as long as it possibly can, and if somebody just HAS to get out, let 'em go.  Some things are only for a season.

HeavnsGirl HeavnsGirl 36-40 5 Responses Jul 23, 2008

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In my opinion, I don't want to get married for the same reason. If I everest get to love someone, I will want them to stay because he wants to, not because a paper or children make him ( I also don't want to have children). I truly believe in the saying " we born alone, we will die alone" but we can have a Little company in the way, but not a depending-needy kind of relationship.

With the experience of a 6 year relationship ending painfully as well as having many friends my age and beyond their 50s of both men and women, I've learned a valuable lesson. You may meet the right person today, but just because they are right for you today does not guarantee that they will remain the same person forever. People change. I've seen too many happy marriages end because one person either lost interest in the other or because a midlife crisis, or even worse...death. I really don't see the point of even trying with so many odds against you. Call me negative if you want, but it's true and I feel enlightened after my experience so far.

Couples that are not married don't always stay true to each other. Getting married is a committment to each other. Just read the vows and understand what they mean. If you cannot stay true to one person, then it is not true love. You will know in your heart when he/she is the right one. The good Lord made a partner for everyone. You just have to find them, and is how you gain your life experiences. Having children from several partners is not what God intended for us. We are all terrible sinners.

I don't know why people think they have to get married. To be honest I think that it is very outdated.

So many couples get married with the thought that if it doesn't work out they will just get divorced. Marraige doesn't just work, you have to keep on working at it. You have to keep the spice going so that you do not get bored, especially if you have children and no time for each other. The same applies if you have a career that takes first place. I have been happily married for 27 years. It is hard work but worth it. I keep changing my hairstyle, or my perfume. Sexy underwear works. Sending messages to his mobile asking what he is doing later that evening gets him wondering what to expect. You have to make time for each other especially when life just gets in the way.