5 Years And Still No Understanding??!??

Does anyone ever truelly know anyone? My parents have been together now for 27yrs and they still dont seem to know each other. They dont communicate and constantly fight over the smallest things. They are always threatening to divorce and I am always stuck in the middle. It makes me scared and it makes me not want to get married - EVER!!!!

PrincessLulu PrincessLulu
26-30, F
2 Responses Mar 2, 2010

I've been married 14 years now and even though we have our disagreements, I still love him dearly. He is my best friend and he knows all of my darkest secrets and fears. No one knows me like he does and vice versa. The key is, you have to pick the right person in the first place and realize that people are constantly changing and evolving. Marriage is what you make of it.

Hi LuLu,<br />
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Thanks for adding me to your circle. Hey listen, don't ever give your power to be happy away. By assuming that ALL marriages and relationships will be like your parents' is just plain wrong. It's wrong because it's incorrect, and it's wrong because it will rob you of the potential to know happiness.<br />
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I don't know about you, but I'd rather be happy than alone and sad, especially if my lonliness and sadness were self-imposed. The purpose of life IS happiness. So define happiness! I can only define MY happiness, for obvious reasons.<br />
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Let me share a story I recently heard: There once was a little girl who wanted to catch some ladybugs. She tried and tried until she got very tired and laid down in the grass and went to sleep. When she woke up, ladybugs were crawling all over her and she was very happy.<br />
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Stop trying, just relax, and it will happen - no matter what it is.<br />
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Later!