Was She Disrespectful Or Insensitive?

We have been dating exclusively for over a year. We knew each other for about 4 months before going exclusive. During those four months she slept with a "friend" from her high school days over a long weekend. When we became exclusive she told me but said we're just friends and went out of her way to explain what happened was just two friends that decided to sleep together. Understand she had little contact with him since high school. This past weekend she asked if we could go to his birthday party. I was absolutely stunned and hurt. She said, we don't have to and that she would not go without me. I let her know it made me angry and that I could not understand why we should go. She said, he is just a friend and I want you to meet him. I guess she figured this way I would not feel threatened. Maybe I am insecure but this seemed disrespectful and I was angry the entire time at this party held at a bar. What makes this more troubling was that while at a concert about a month ago, she texted him. I was furious. I asked why and she said watching the band reminded her of him since he was a musician. She had been drinking and then went off to the bathroom and snapped a picture of herself and sent it to him along with another picture where I was cropped out. I am hurt. She has had no other contact since these two incidents described but I feel hurt and disrespected. I don't get it. She hides nothing from me and we have access to each other's phones so again I feel confident that she has had no ther contact and that she has not cheated. Still, I feel like I was disrespected and I am still hurt. What do others think?
confusedguy436 confusedguy436
41-45, M
1 Response Sep 12, 2012

If yous have access to each others phones then thats a worrying thing already. She is snapping pics of herself in a toilet and sending it to a guy like a teenage ****. There is obviously no trust so id suggest getting out of there.