My Wife

I m sorry for you I wish you the best

Here's my 1st question- is she stil using? And my 2nd question is - has she expressed to u that she wants to quit and is tired of the lifestyle and I don't mean just after a fight, I mean is she at rock bottom pretty much and knows its now or never? I ask this because that time comes for every addict. Now some will argue that point cause u see a 60 ur old meth head an they ask well when did there time come? Well chances are their time came but most ppl don't know how to deal with addicts because for so long only "bad" ppl got addicted to drugs or " poor" ppl get hooked! I'm here to tell u that's all bullshit! And if u think ur wife hasn't had times where she sits and cries and cries and cries some more bout where her life went and where it's going u would b wrong too! Now u sound like a loving husband and hard working loving father! Nobody will take that away from u! However, now is the time to make the decision is this a fight ur willing to see to the end? U have the right to say no! It's ok to say no because if u say yes and only do it half assed or walk out half way thru it , that will just reassure her feelings that she's fighting this battle alone! Now this is gonna b the fight of ur 2 lives and in those wedding vows it says for better or worse and sickness and in health, what does that mean to u and what does that mean to her? Those beautiful girls will remember how their family deals with this for the rest of their lives and yes we want to protect our children from the scary in the world but I know a ton of addicts that started from doctors that have them so many narcotics for so long that if they didn't have that amount or more everyday then they went I to instant detox so no it's not just ur junkie cousin and guess what health care profession is peppered with addicts and they are everywhere and they will lie and talk about other addicts if they r bad cause they are afraid of what the general public will think. It's a horrible feeling and I've sat and let friends cry for hours and hours bout the horrible things that got most of them to the place they were that day. The addict will steal from u and lie to u but ur wife would never ever do those things to u...ur wife loves u and she certainly loves those babies but I know what ur thinking and that's " why does she get to b lazy draining the finances and then she sleeps when she is suppose to watch the kids " but to b fair she's not looking at it as her bein selfish, she's just tryin not to b sick, her body will ache and she will have the ***** and constant body pains and all the very worst possible body yuck urs and mind crushing horrible horrible things, that's what she's tryin to get rid of when she's searching out those drugs, then once she gets rid of the detox then she might get high but it's kinda like a drunk that spends 100 bucks at the bar to cry as soon as they leave til 5 am spittin and sputtering about how nobody loves them or somethin from when they were younger, people seek out that "high" cause they are tryin to cover up something from their past. It's not always the case but it most definitely is a link between em. Now back to u asking urself if ur ready for this fight? Think about it for real and ask her a well, ask her if she could get better and never want heroine again and didn't have to go thru detox would she do it? I bet u she says hell yes cause it's the detox everybody is scared of....anyhow, find out the answers to those questions and if ur serious hit me up and ill give u a direct path to a right now option that will help her get her **** together and b the wife and mom u k ow she can b.... Good luck bud I hope nothing but the best for u and stay strong

Gosh, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. It sounds like hell on earth, and how sad for your daughters. The heartbreak and stress must be suffocating. The only comfort I can give is to say that things can get better. It might not be the fairytale happy ending, but things can get better. Take one step. Just do one thing at a time to protect you and your girls.

The first thing you should do is look into finding affordable AND SAFE childcare as soon as possible.

Your wife is literally on drugs and cannot be trusted with the safety of your children. The drugs not only warp her judgment, they make her unaware, which means that if the children are around her and her drugged out friends, who also have poor judgment, that horrible things can and probably will eventually happen to them. You're lucky they weren't in the car with her, or hurt.

Your number one job is to protect them at all costs, even if it means protecting them from their own mother until she is off the drugs.

So....childcare. Get the girls away from her. That way, they're safe, and you can start getting used to feeling like "a single parent"....whether you throw your wife out now or not. At least the kids will be safer. Honestly, it sounds like you've been a single parent for awhile now and just haven't realized it yet.

In regard to your wife....don't tell yourself stories one way or another about what will happen to her if you throw her out. You don't know for sure. Sometimes people who hit "rock bottom" (and don't die in the process) finally get serious about staying off the drugs. and yes, sometimes they don't, and die from an overdose.

So...focus on your intentions. (1) Keep your kids safe, (2) hope for the best with your wife but seek help for yourself at a support group, (3) you have to be happy and healthy so your kids can be too, so take care of yourself.

My best to you, and virtual hugs.

I am very sorry for all you are going through.

So sorry for all you are going through. I wish you the best and can only offer the support of narcotics anonymous, they have help for family members.