I Don't Understand Lies And Gossip
If I have learnt one valuable lesson in life it is : Those who gossip to TO YOU are gossiping ABOUT YOU!!
My ex boyfriends mother is a prime example. This is a lady who comes accross as sweet and caring and can eaisily engage anyone into conversation. But she is really a serial gossiper, always trying to extract information from people so she can twist and manipulate the truth. This is a lady who constantly ******* about her own family and children. She plays people off against one another. I will admit that I got caught up with a lot of her gossip and found myself saying not so nice things about others too. You could sit there and pour your heart out to this lady about any problems you were having and she would listen with a sympathtic ear. Once you left she would be right on the phone to other family and friends (whom she had just bitched about to me!) telling them all of my "sordid" details. Im so glad I am no longer part of this family and stay away from them at all costs.
I think quite often a gossiper does not realise that the information that are speading around will always get back to the one who it is about. And it can be so hurtful and painful to find out some people that you trust are actually talking about you behind your back. Hence why I now have a small circle of friends that I know I can trust. We do not back stab each other or gossip about others misfortunes because we all have been a victim of ridiculous gossip before.
As I have gotten older I have weeded out the gossipers from my life. I still get text messages and phone calls from some of these people but I know they are only in contact with me to try and extract information that they can turn into gossip. I simply ignore them. A gossiper thrives on information. If you give them nothing they will just make something up anyway. I cant understand how these people sleep at night. Have these people never been on the end of gossip and lies about themselves before and experienced the hurt it causes? They probably love the fact that they are being talked about no matter what is said.
I always say treat others how you want to be treated!!!
My ex boyfriends mother is a prime example. This is a lady who comes accross as sweet and caring and can eaisily engage anyone into conversation. But she is really a serial gossiper, always trying to extract information from people so she can twist and manipulate the truth. This is a lady who constantly ******* about her own family and children. She plays people off against one another. I will admit that I got caught up with a lot of her gossip and found myself saying not so nice things about others too. You could sit there and pour your heart out to this lady about any problems you were having and she would listen with a sympathtic ear. Once you left she would be right on the phone to other family and friends (whom she had just bitched about to me!) telling them all of my "sordid" details. Im so glad I am no longer part of this family and stay away from them at all costs.
I think quite often a gossiper does not realise that the information that are speading around will always get back to the one who it is about. And it can be so hurtful and painful to find out some people that you trust are actually talking about you behind your back. Hence why I now have a small circle of friends that I know I can trust. We do not back stab each other or gossip about others misfortunes because we all have been a victim of ridiculous gossip before.
As I have gotten older I have weeded out the gossipers from my life. I still get text messages and phone calls from some of these people but I know they are only in contact with me to try and extract information that they can turn into gossip. I simply ignore them. A gossiper thrives on information. If you give them nothing they will just make something up anyway. I cant understand how these people sleep at night. Have these people never been on the end of gossip and lies about themselves before and experienced the hurt it causes? They probably love the fact that they are being talked about no matter what is said.
I always say treat others how you want to be treated!!!
By:
archangelgirl
Age:
31-35
