Difficulties

We've had a lot of difficult issues at the office in the past few weeks.  It's really been a time of stress and worry for everyone.  

It's been interesting to observe people's behaviour though.  It's been both fascinating and upsetting to see traits in people which are really very unattractive.  

  • A dogged determination to uncover the wrongdoings of another and to parade those findings as some sort of victory in front of others.
  • Constantly bitching and complaining about someone, reinforcing your belief in the inherent dishonesty of a colleague.
  • Witnessing someone's delight at the discovery that they were right about someone all along, and displaying that victory time and again.
  • People trying to think of ways to make life even more uncomfortable for someone who is already going through hell through their own wrongdoings and mis-judgement.
  • True dark pessimism in folks and the willingness to give up in a situation which was far from complete inevitable defeat.  

I am not without fault of course, I don't always get things right and I'm not being superior here in any way at all.  But, it is truly an eye-opener to see people resort to out and out cruelty and hatred.  Human nature is often surprising and not always in a positive way unfortunately.

womaninbliss womaninbliss
51-55, F
4 Responses Feb 7, 2010

I can remember my days managing a small law office. I was in my early 30s and had worked there for l3 years. The last crew we had there was horrible. Woman at there worst! I was so glad I became pregnant and stopped working when the baby came. Sometimes, the tension was so bad, I couldn't wait for the day to end. It usually only takes 1 or 2 in the group to start the trouble. Some people actually enjoy the dysfunction and find it exciting. I went back to the same office when my kids started school full-time.<br />
At this point, the girls were very young, I was part-time and much older. It was just as bad so I kept to myself and worked. I was very thankful I became pregnant again at 43 and stopped working to raise my daughter. When she went to school, I chose to start my own business at home. I told my husband I was no longer capable of working in that kind of atmosphere. I've never regretted my decision!

thanks ladee. It seems easier to cope with on EP ... I just choose to ignore it ... but in real life it's hard when it surrounds you ... makes me feel very claustrophobic. hugs back to you dear!!

thanks ladee. It seems easier to cope with on EP ... I just choose to ignore it ... but in real life it's hard when it surrounds you ... makes me feel very claustrophobic. hugs back to you dear!!

Unfortunately the option to find another workplace is not really there, so it's put up and shut up really! Yes, it is contagious and people seem to enjoy that crowd mentality ...<br />
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I like to know what's going on in the office and enjoy a gossip too ... but I just can't listing to constant bitching ... it's been driving me crazy!!