I Want An Answer!
Most of the time, parents absolutely adore their children. Whether thay are planned or a surprise, makes no difference. The majority usually fall madly in love with their baby the instant they hold them in their arms and look into their eyes.
My daughter was not planned. I was not married at the time. Yet, nothing compared to the surge of emotion and love I felt the instant I knew I was carrying her. I don't know if it is different for men. They don't carry the child inside them for 9 months and give birth but I have seen such strong bonds between fathers and their children too. Being a parent, I know what it is like to have hopes and dreams for my daughter. I have carefully tried to mold her into a decent young lady who could make a difference in our cynical and unfair world someday. I do not expect her to be perfect or even want the same things I might want for her. She is an individual capable of making her own decisions and mistakes just like the rest of us. I can only guide her.
What I cannot fathom, is why parents disown their children. No matter what they have done to disappoint you....or mistakes they might have made....how can you turn your love off like a light switch?
If my daughter dropped out of college, committed a crime, told me she was gay, etc....I could not turn my back on her. How can I judge her? Who am I to say she is right or wrong? Even if our religion frowned upon her,...I could never walk away as if she never existed!
I have a very close and dear friend who was disowned by her father. She did not live up to his expectations. His pre-conceived idea of what HE WANTED her to be was not what SHE WANTED. He was disappointed and embarassed of her. Every year she sends a birthday card and every year it comes back with "Return To Sender."
My question for everyone out there in EP land is this.....
Do you believe in unconditional love?
*Any and all comments are appreciated