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Will It Work This Time?

I'm in a relationship with a guy at my school. We like each other a lot and when we're by ourselves I never want him to leave. But when he's around his guy friends, he is distant from me and shows lack of usual affection. I'm not trying to sound like one of those super paranoid girlfriends who always thinking "did I do something wrong? Is he embarrassed of me? Does he not want to be seen with me?" Here's the thing: This isn't the first time we've dated. Sometime in... um, I want to say October, we went out for two weeks, and he had absolutley no problem with PDA. We're never the couple who's always sucking each other's face in public, but we would at least hold hands and give each other small but sweet kisses. Today, we had STAR testing and only the sophmores had to be at school at normal time because we had one more section of the test to take. I'm a sophmore and he's a freshman, but he takes the bus so he had to come early. There was barely anyone on the bus when he decided to let me cuddle with him; I fell asleep holding his hand and laying on his chest. After school, the bus was packed as usual, and he didn't even sit on the same side as me. And when we are at school, I always have to ask him for a kiss, or even a hug when we separate to go to different classes or hang with our friends. And I don't see him that much at school so I know I'm not being clingy. I better talk to him about it.
Riomi Riomi 16-17, F 4 Responses Apr 26, 2012

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Sounds like you already have the answer

From experience dont do it. Dont take him seriously i regret doing what he did to my gf its not that hes pushing you aside it sounds like he still wants to impress his friends and doesn't want them to think ill of you. I know this because i used to do the same that is a selfish act and immature. You are far too young to worry about kids and have a premature heartbreak. I know you are starting and ooh all lovey dovey don't fall into temptation. I'm not saying to leave him and stay single all I'm saying is the wise thing you can do its up to you I'm just telling you to prevent a future heartbreak guaranteed but its up to you chika good luck i really hope it works out tho nothing better than a high school sweetheart any questions please feel free to message me.

While I appreciate the advice, I'm glad I didn't see this post until now. Luckily, me and my boyfriend have worked everything out and are closer than ever. He explained his reasons for lack of PDA, which I understand and respect, so we made a compromise. The reason why are relationship failed the first time was lack of communication so we learned to strengthen it to reduce problems. We just pasted the 4 month mark and although we've had arguements, I am happy to say everything so far has been going smoothly ever since.

Sorry for the late reply Im glad everything worked out for the two of you my best wishes to you and I hope everything works out and stays that way :)

you seem to know the first thing you should do: talk to him. tell him how you feel. clarify exactly what your relationship is. theprince2374 is right. some guys are afraid to show their affection around friends.

Its ok some guys are affaid of showing affection arround their buddies. Sorry to say that