Risk

I met someone I really cared about once. Maybe I even fell in love. That was stupid of me. He was a nice guy honestly. He opened the door for me, never had me pay for dinner. He actually treated me like a princess. Then things changed. He told me about his addiction. It was shocking, but I wanted to help. I stayed with him, trying to help him for over a year before I realized that his addiction had consumed his life and changed who I had fallen in love with. He cheated on me every day I found out, and when I confronted him about it, he tried to justify his actions. We eventually left each other. I don't want my heart broken again, so I simply avoid the whole dating scene. It's safer for my heart that way. I don't want to risk anything else.
Brielle18 Brielle18
18-21, F
3 Responses Jan 18, 2013

I, too, feel the disinterest in dating after having my heart broken. What's frustrating is that I want to be in a relationship but I feel like I can't do it.

I know what you mean. That's one of the hardest things. Wanting to get to that point, but not feeling like you can.

It happened to me too, not an addiction per say, but the same end result. Thank-you for some amazing insight.

Thank you. It means a lot to know that someone understands.

I can see where you are coming from. I am a recovering addict so I can see the addiction part very clearly. He wont change until he wants to get help for his addiction. Heartbreak is always a risk. In order to love and be loved you have to take that risk or getting rejected, or your heart broken. It comes with the territory. But the beautiful thing is, thats when your truly living. When you take those risks and reap the benefits you feel exhilarated, and its worthwhile to have taken that risk. But when the risk is taken and you get heartbroken or rejected, you learn. You learn from dating and falling for the wrong guys. You find out what qualities you want in a man. And eventually he comes along. Unfortunately i have been in many bad relationships, one that was actually abusive. But im in an amazing relationship now, we live together, and are planning a future, because i took that risk.

Thank you for your help. It really does help and encourage me to take the risk again. So thank you for helping me see what's on the other side.