Happy With My ChoiceI have nothing against kids - if you really want them, you should have them but don't complain endlessly about the down side of it all after you do. And do me the courtesy of not assuming that I am selfish or abnormal because I don't share your enthusiasm for the little dears. Just as some people can't imagine a good life without kids, I can't imagine a good life with them.
After years of listening to women around me, including my own mother, ***** and moan about how hard it was raising kids, I decided at 20 that children were not for me either. Fortunately, a physical condition and subsequent medical procedure rendered me permenently child-free. I have no, and never will have, any regrets. I have too much that I want to do in my life, things that would not be possible if I had a child to care for, including volunteering my time to help others as often as I can. I will never have to worry about babysitters, temper tantrums in large public places, teenaged angst, drug use, unwanted pregnancy or any of the woes that can and often do accompany being a parent. I do realize that there are many joys to being a mother, but in my case, the pluses never outweighed the minuses.
I only wish that more parents were as at ease with their decision as I am with mine. There might be fewer abused and unwanted children in the world if that were the case.
Solidad42 41-45, F 112 Responses 85 Jun 28, 2010