Genetically Responsible.

I don't want kids. I don't want to be a mom. It isn't in my nature to be nurturing of another person... not to the extent that a child would need over the 18-year span of their life for which I would be responsible. I'd like to say that I have the capacity for such a big task, but I simply do not.

I think the most important reason I have for not having children is the fact that I have bad genes. Most of my family is diabetic. Most of my family is plagued with ADHD. Most of my family has thyroid problems. Most of my family has heart problems. Most of my family is predisposed to weight issues. Most of my family has severe acne issues.

All-in-all, I'd rather not offer this genetic minefield to future generations.

When I have the time and resources, I intend to have my tubes tied. I think it is the smartest, most reasonable thing for me to do. Even if I, for some bizarre reason, find myself wanting to have a child I think it is far better to adopt an older kid (or kids). Maybe a child from a country less fortunate than my own. I just know that I don't want to have one of my own. That poor kid would be doomed.
McSerious McSerious 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 10, 2010

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Kids are great and you may change your mind. May want to hold off on that tubal until your at least 35 or so.

As for your choice I think thats great also. No reason to bring a child into life without knowing that you can provide for them. There are many people who do and just become a burden on society. Adoption is a great way to go if you decide later. So many children trapped in the system who could use a responsable, loving role model.

That is a very responcible choice you are making. I also think its wonderful that you are open to adoption if you deside you want children.