Never Wanted Them, Almost In The ClearI grew up never wanting children. Like most of you I been told a million times "You'll change your mind" "You HAVE to have a baby" "I can't imagine life without my child/ren" "You will never know love until you have a baby"
I have watched all my friends transition into mothers and fathers. I have done my best to stay your friend. I have listened to you brag about how smart your kid is even when he keeps getting his head stuck in the banister. I have bit my tongue when you say how well mannered your child is even though a feral monkey on crack is better behaved. I listen to you tell me over and over that I "will never understand what it's like"
You know what? No, I don't know what it's like, but I sure recognize the arrogance displayed in your tone. If I wanted to be a part of your little "I'm better than you because I have a kid" club I would of joined years ago. There is a world outside that of you and your child. I'm more than willing to be a part of your world if you would be willing to step outside yours once in a while and be in mine.
There is no compromise with parents. Now into my 30s I find it extremely hard to socialize with people my own age because they are all parents. Meeting new people always starts and ends the same: "Do you have any children? Your don't? Well if you'll excuse me I have to talk to someone who DOES because I can't compare my kids achievements against yours in an attempt to one-up you" (Obviously that isn't literally said, but you get the gist)
I never wanted kids, I never had kids and now I feel like a social leper because of it. Socializing with people 10-15 years younger than me because they are the only non-judgmental people who can engage in a conversation that isn't centered on children is taking it's toll on me.
lillhammer78 31-35, F 7 Responses 10 Nov 20, 2011