Not Wanting Children

I have never wanted children,the reactions of people really give me the arsehole!I I have had all the "who will look after you when your old"?
The answer: NOBODY! All these questions are thrown at you by those who want you in the same boat as them.Do I like children? Yes my brother has two grandchildren and they are lovely.My wife works for local government and she see's all the one's who have been chucked out by parents because of causing them too much grief.We have been married for 33yrs and done things we could not have done if we had had them also a lot of children are "accidents" and were not planned.
robbo1952 robbo1952
56-60, M
4 Responses May 22, 2012

I am 26 and I have no interest in having children - most people either call me selfish/irresponsible/uncaring, or say that I will end up with child anyway. There are far too many things I want to do in life, and children would just get in the way. And you are right - a lot of children are accidents! I think that unless a child is planned by parents who truly do want one, there is no point having them as you'll be a lousy parent. People find it really difficult to understand for some reason... what is so difficult to understand about the fact that parenthood is a CHOICE?

Yea I get this reaction a LOT from my mom & I'm half inclined to tell her I've got a back up plan don't worry about me, worry more about yourself. :p xD<br />
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Still what irks me are the married couples who think they're your friends cause they work at the same place you do & when asked if your gonna have kids soon & you tell them no they look at you like your from mars. Or those who tell you that your mind will change. Ha! My mind has never changed & it never will. <br />
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In society it's just expected that once you get married you'll procreate; immediately if not sooner. While that maybe the case for some, it's not always the case for others. <br />
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Cheers on your wonderful marriage though!! ^^

"Still what irks me are the married couples who think they're your friends cause they work at the same place you do & when asked if your gonna have kids soon & you tell them no they look at you like your from mars. Or those who tell you that your mind will change. Ha! My mind has never changed & it never will." - yep, I get that too!

And you're right, there is still that expectation that people should procreate once they get married. A lot of people have conservative views - and also, a lot of people lack imagination. They just want to tick off the "done things" from the life to-do list. People like ourselves, who live life dancing to the beat of our own drum, often are misunderstood. Oh well - that's other people's problem!

So many people bring children into the world only to seriously emotionally and/or physically abuse them. Often times, it's because the "parents" never gave a second thought as to whether or not they were fit to have children. Instead, they listened to these MORONS (who appear to make up most of society) who think having a kid is the only reason for a man and a woman to be together. These breeders really don't use any logic whatsoever. Don't have a kid and you're a total misanthrope in their eyes ... yeah, right, whatever. Tell these arseholes to mind their own businesses ... As for me, I'm with you. I'm 42, been married over 13 years, and I don't have kids, still don't plan on it and my wife has no desire for them either. (Besides, I'm too old now anyway. I don't want to be 60 when my kid is 18!) And I absolutely refuse to feel any guilt over it. I'm happy without kids and if that's selfish, hey -- so be it! I couldn't give a toss.

The best decision people can make is to not have children, if they don't want them. All I ever wanted was to be a Mommy. I thought it was the greatest thing I could ever do. My mom made it look so easy and fun. Well, I had four kids. I love them to pieces, but while it was often fun, it was never easy. <br />
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It does take complete dedication to raise a child. And no.....not just for 18 years. That 18 year limit, is only for the parents who abdicate; leave; go make a different life. They are supposed to be responsible for child support until the child is 18.True parents never stop caring or worrying or feeling the need to assist, financially or at least with moral support.