What Biological Clock?
I'm 30, and I was told at age 23, "at 26 you'll feel the urge". "at 29 you'll really feel the clock". "At 30, the clock is ticking really loud". YEAH RIGHT!
I don't feel badly for not wanting children. We're humans, and should be capable of the right to choose breeding over not breeding. Society has gotten it so ingrained, "woman equals SUV driver of screaming brats". We're not animals who just breed litters without weighing out pros and cons. As humans, we have the intellect and choice to stop and think about if children are right for you or not before you have them. Lots of people who aren't fit to parent already had their litters for bad reasons: "I thought that having a child meant he'd stay with me", "I was lonely", "I wanted to pass my bloodline because I had nothing else to do".
My reasons for being child free for life: I know for a fact that I'm unfit to mother. There are mental issues I've been dealing with for life that will interfere with my ability to raise a child. Having a child isn't insurance policy for elderly care. Kids are expensive, emotionally draining, and yet parents aren't allowed by society to complain about parenthood. Things go hidden behind the mask of "my child is the greatest thing ever", when they haven't slept in 2 weeks. I would rather gather my energy and joie de vivre to help the community and animals in other ways, and to share the joys with my significant other. I also abhor the image of the fetus growing in me like some parasitic worm which gobbles up mom's resources, health, energy, etc. The parasitism won't end for 18 years. No thank you.
My opinions aren't accepted with open arms by most people in this world. (particularly the religious and conservative crowds), but I'm careful with who I share them with. It's also none of any one's business whether I have rugrats or not. People say it's selfish, but I also think it's selfish to have kids for selfish reasons.
I'm not pulled towards the "family scene" because I like to keep life less complicated and untangled from others. I'm ok with the fact that there may be times in my life when I'm isolated. Many of my friends have gone off to mommy land and we have nothing in common any more. I don't want to hear of potty training, breast feeding or diaper rash. Old age may bring loneliness one day, but I would like to die surrounded by my cats, dogs, and plants at home. My savings will go to a shelter for cats and dogs or other rescue animals.