No Kids At This House. We're Too Busy Taking Care Of Every One Else.<.< My mom has been bugging my husband & I for children for at least the last 2 years. More so NOW since my cousin & his wife had a daughter making my auntie a grandmother. My mom wants to have a grandchild so bad she even got both my brother & I both a house hoping that either I or my sister in law would accidently get preggers cause apparently she doesn't want kids either.
I told my mother 10 years ago that my husband & I don't want kids & yet she still harps about it. Every time I see her she says; "Well your mother in law has grandchildren." I almost said to her; "Ok fine here's my sister in laws phone number." Seriously, it's taking a toll on me & she acts like it's MY problem because SHE's the one who wants grandchildren. I've decided that today I've had enough either she accepts that she gets my husband & I in her life & no grandchildren or she gets nothing. No more contact from us, no more updates from me. She gets squat.
What my mother fails to understand is what I go through on a day to day basis. I have my reasons for not wanting to have kids & I HAVE gone over those issues with her. Not only that but more has come up to make me want to have children even less because one, I have to take care of a dog i personally don't want. But I am taking care of it for a family member who is ill & plan on giving their animal to them when they are well enough to take it back. Which could be for up to a year or longer. But if this person CAN'T take care of the animal properly then I'm going to end up with the animal any way because I promised to take care of it on their behalf. I may not like having a dog but I refuse to return the animal to a home where it can't be properly taken care of. I do have my ethics & standards here.
Number two; my husband has to constantly has to take care of his mothers presc
This in itself wouldn't be a problem IF he could work out a schedule with her for us to come over on. But because of issues arising she always has to come first even before we do. <.<
So yea.. Not only that but I've told many of the people who work with my husband that we don't want kids & a few are fine with that, but a few others have looked at me like I'm from Mars. I mean people on this site can understand that I & my husband don't want kids.. But in society where it's over ridden with married couples who already have children or who have children it's a whole different story. I suppose according to society were taught by the mass media that when we get married we're supposed to get a house, then procreate. Or some b.s. >.>
[rant] NO. Ok, just no, enough of this crap. It's my life & I can choose what I personally want out of life & if that choice includes NOT to have children then I don't understand why I can't stick to that decision with out every one INCLUDING their mother trying to convince me to "change my mind" other wise about it! Look, I am NOT having a child for YOU or ANY ONE else's benefit. I don't care how much, you or any one else may WANT a child; it is JUST not going to happen so you & every one else in society needs to get the **** over it. <.< [/rant] (This rant is directed more at a society [& parents who can't understand why a couple may not want them] who wants us married folk to have kids when we in fact don't want them. >.>)
queenzelda 36-40, F 1 Response 1 Jul 22, 2012