At Least Now, I Don't


We got into a discussion about our age difference (which isn't big - he's 29 and I'm 22).  When he got to the point where he was like, "Damn, I'm going to be 30 next year" he started saying that he wants to settle down, get married and have kids soon.

I love him, but unless he changes his lifestyle, I don't think he has any business having kids anytime soon.  He's too busy with work and too focused on himself to have kids.  

He works crazy late nights, on weekends, he travels a lot...if and when he has kids he's still living the same type of lifestyle, his kids are never going to see him and that just isn't right.  It'd probably be a situation where mommy would have to be both daddy and mommy for a lot of the time.  I also don't want him to change up what he's doing just because he has kids.  I'd want him to continue doing it all but still be there for his kids, but I don't know if that's even possible.  I also don't know if I'm being ridiculous with thinking that he's not ready for them. 

He was talking about settling down and getting married soon too.  That freaked me out the most.  I'm cool with settling down...if that means staying long term.  He's completely long term potential.  We're a real team and I know we love each other.  I just don't want to get married anytime soon, and for me that means not within the next five years or so.  I have no business being someone else's wife (or a mother too, for that matter) because I'm not situated with my own life yet.  I need my own life before I become someone's wife =P

yoyy yoyy
26-30, F
2 Responses Feb 20, 2010

haha awwww

yeah, that's what I think too. He's out of his mind if he thinks he should have them soon lol