I Never Want To Have Children!
wow, first of all- Im so relieved to find other people who feel the same way! I have never wanted children in my life, for several reasons. First of all, Im really indipendet. I like the freedome to do what I want and go where I want without having to find a babysitter. Secondly, Im really career oriented, Ive wanted to be a scientist (cognitiv neuroscience) my whole life, and a kid would be a real drawback. How could I balance a child and my dream? I would either have to tone down my work, quit- or my favourite choice- not have any kids! And when I see all those kids who cry and whine in shops because they dont get something they want. Teenagers!! And the fact that studies have shown that people who have children are less happy than people without children.
My family, friends, even teachers and people who hardly know me think Im a terrible and silly person for thinking something so dumb that I dont want to have kids. I have even been called selfish for not wanting a child. And when I teel people they always tell me that im going to die lonely if I dont have any children, and that I will change my mind when my "biological clock" thicks in. People seem to think its a fase and that Im going to snap out of it sometime soon. I may be young, but I know in my heart that children are not for me. I think children can be cute, and I love telling stories and fairytales to my younger siblings, I love how imaginative kids can be- but I dont want one in my house.
When I grow up (or at least when I grow older I kinda have grown up already), I want to devote my life to my work. I want to travel. I want to have a free economy. I dont want the responsibility of having kids. And I know this is hard for my family and friends to understand. My mum keeps telling me that one day I will find the real meaning in life (which isnt career and freedome but husbands and childrens). I dont see it happening. I never wanted children, and now that many of my friends are getting married and engaged and pregnant, I dont think "me too". But I feel pretty isolated from them. The people I used to get wasted with are suddenly all into wedding dresses and baby clothes. I dont feel like I can relate to them, I feel rather like an outcast. But Im pretty certain that children will never make me happy, its rather the opposite.
After I wrote this I have realized something. When I wrote this I tried to explain it by giving logical reasons as to why I dont want children- but the real reason isnt logical, or well kinda, but its mostly emotional. Yes all of those things above are true, but the real reason- the biggest reason and the only one that truly matters- is that I simply just dont want to have kids. Thats all the reason I ever need. I just dont want to.