Are They Patronising Me?So many people look at me and say "You'll have kids one day!" even though I've made it clear I don't want them. On the one hand, I know lots of people do have kids even though they say they won't. On the other hand, this is not a decision I made a week ago- this has been the plan for quite a while.
There's not a single thing about having kids I want- from the pain, to the mess, to the hugging, to the cooing noises. I also don't have a partner and with my luck, never will! I've thought about it and decided I would rather be a "big sister" in a program for children with troubled lives. I don't have a maternal bone in my body and I just don't want to be stuck with such a huge responsibility! I'd rather make a difference part time for someone who really needs it- and with the knowledge I can bail if it gets to be too much!
I'm never quite sure whether to be offended when people tell m with great assurance- "You'll have kids one day!"