I Really Believe That I Am Too Selfish For Kids....

     I use to think it made me a bad person. To not want kids. I have recently come to the conclusion that it doesn't. It actually makes me a pretty good person. If I had allowed myself to be pressured by me or society then that would have made me a bad person..... Knowing that I'm too selfish to be a good mom, well that's a good thing. It would have been worse if I'd had some and then realized that I was too selfish to be a good mom. At least this way, the children don't suffer.

   That said..... I bow in front all of those EPers that are not only parents, but are awesome at their job. You guys ROCK!! I don't envy you, but I do think you're AWESOME and should be thanked for taking on the hardest job known to man and woman. My hat off to you all....... I bow to you, one and all.

  If I ever get through my "selfish phase" or can support a family and be mentally and emotionally stable enough so that any child that I take in doesn't grow up completely screwed up like me, then well, I'll adopt. There are a hell of a lot of kids out there with no parents, neglected, abused, and just looking to be loved. I have a lot of love, I just don't have a lot of patience and I am way too fearful of the world. I wouldn't want to make my children as fearful as I am. I would be way too protective. I don't want them jumping at their own shadows..... Not like I do. =((

 

  Teri xoxo

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2 Responses Feb 10, 2009

That's great. More people should think like you frankly. Having children is a SELFISH thing in my opinion. 7 billion people in this world and we need more? Why? Plenty of kids to adopt out there. So your genetics don't live on. So what??? <br />
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I'm happy for your decision.

good for you! i think it's much worse for someone to have kids because they feel like they "should" even though they honestly don't want to be a parent. parenting is one of the hardest and most important jobs there is, and shouldn't be based on society's expectations. i'm the same way. i don't want kids, although i have such respect for all the good parents out there who do their job so well!