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I Feel Like No One Will Ever Love Me

I don't think anyone will ever love me. I'm too much hard work. I don't want to be alone though. I want someone to love and care for me and I want to love and care for them too. I really hope Mr. Right comes along someday. I don't think I could stand being a spinster :(
pinksapphires pinksapphires 16-18, F 17 Responses Dec 3, 2007

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Me too. Things will be going great and then it's like i can feel the person I'm with just give out and become so distant to where i don't even know him anymore. It has to be me. I feel so broken inside because i literally feel so alone and that no one could ever love me..nothing ever lasts.

This feels selfish, and it's not like my life is ruined because of it or that I don't still have hope...
It's just that I have a hard time believing that any boy (man, whatever) is ever going to love me. It's just... that doesn't seem possible. I don't know, but it seems as if there are so many other awesome people who deserve one another. What have I ever done?
I'm a strong Christian as well, and I have God's love that gets me through. But... forever? Like this?
(Yes, I am a teenager, if that helps explain some of the angst I have going on in this post.)

I am a strong Christian woman, and I have two wonderful sons who are the world to me. I am having a hard time lately. I know I'm not unlovable, I know the Lord loves me just as I am, and he will never leave me, nor will he leave any of you...he loves you all on here just as deep. I lost my parents within months of each other at a young age, and a year after that my husband left me for another woman. He has no relationship with his sons at all. I have had 5 back surgeries, and I am on disability because no one would hire me. So I'm trying to help one son who just grad. from college get a job and i am helping the other one start college. I want to sing so much and all I've ever wanted is support to do that. My mother, (my best friend) supported me sooo much with this. BUt since she died I have struggled horribly with confidence, and self respect (even tho I AM a Christian). Even my Church family doesn't support my music, so I have just used my other gifts God has given me, to help out, and so they will except me. I was also abused, and raped by a counselor, so I just don't trust easily at all. But I know I don't want to be alone, when my sons get married one day and have a family. But I feel like I would be a major burden on someone, so I just choose to not let anyone get close to me. Though, I'm lonely. It all sounds wierd I know, but thats the best way I can explain it. KDG

What if I were to tell you, you are loved? What if there millions of worshipping fans who would gladly throw down their lives in service to you? Would you love them back or would you deny their love because it doesn't fit the definition of love you have created within the story that plays constantly in your head. What if I were to tell you, you have been lied to? What if you are enveloped in love but you refuse it? Stop looking for love out there in the world. Stop looking for fullfilment from the outside. Realize that each cell in your body serves you! Loves you! Stop denying that love. Stop believing in the fairy tales, Prince Charming and happily ever after. Realize that love is the way you feel when you stop and catch a snow flake on your tongue. It's watching a sunrise as if for the very first time. It is the feeling you get when you see a small child laughing and playing with its mother in a park. It is that that warmth that fills you and that smile that washes across your face... That is love. Love will never be found in another. It will not come from another person, place or thing. Love comes from within. Love yourself. For it is from the love of self that all love springs. I am here on EP as the result of a near death experience that change my life forever. I wrote about it in my story, "The Day I Died Was The Best Day of My Life". I invite anyone and everyone that has an interest to read it. It is my sole purpose for being on this site.<br />
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Stop believing the lies that hold you back... No matter your size, your looks, the color of your hair, where you were born, the job you do...You are perfection. You are the perfect you in this moment, for there is no other way you could be, ba<x>sed on who you are right NOW. To be any other way would be, to be, not....You. All your experience has brought you to this place. You are where you are right now but tomorrow holds infinite possibilities. You are the creator of your own personal reality. You create your reality by the thoughts and beliefs you hold to be true. Change you mind and you will change your reality.<br />
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I'd like to leave you with a quote attributed to Buddha, <br />
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"You, yourself, as much as anyone in the universe, deserve your love and affection."<br />
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Wishing all inner peace, love and happiness.

Wow. You made me cry, and just the words I needed to encourage my broken heart. Thank You.

Well, I have been very self critical at times. I go by the critisms I have had from others. But one day, I noticed that every fault I have, can be seen on others and it did not stop them from being in a genuine relationship. You need to decide that 'no matter what' the next guy you sleep with will be your husband. It may seem hard at first, but eventually it builds your confidence. Many guys like a woman with confidence.

You're really dumb if you think looks matter. No one will ever love me because I'm a spiteful person who looks for pity and can't keep his mouth shut. My childhood was a divorce and an abusive stepmother, I practically skipped that phase. I've never had a relationship last a year, and recently I've just been turned down. I'm going to commit suicide, and mention every girl I've ever asked out on my suicide note.

I don't think suicide is the way.Even though I don't know you I am worried about you.
I am sure some people don't think you are spiteful and love you for who you are.
Even if you have been turned down that does not mean you lost, that means the right one has not yet come along.
I feel like no one will ever love me but someday someone will and of course be the right one.
Xxx

I feel the same way too since i'm really fat

I feel the same way too since i'm really fat

I feel the same way too since i'm really fat

i understand for i am in the same place...give it time it will happen (i say this to myself all the time)

hi ,<br />
i feel exactly what you feel right now but my situation is a bit diffrent from the problem you had <br />
its not about the love for boys ,its about the love of a parent .i cant feel that they love me<br />
even though i do all i can to make them proud ,but nothing ,all of my hardship was a trash to them ,because of that i think that im an awfull person that cannot be loved by everyone ,i dont even care if im stress or tired in doing all of the things that i do to make them happy ,<br />
i also obey what they want i respect them,but i think they dont see. <br />
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i felt so alone and sometimes i wish that ive never been born

hi ,<br />
i feel exactly what you feel right now but my situation is a bit diffrent from the problem you had <br />
its not about the love for boys ,its about the love of a parent .i cant feel that they love me<br />
even though i do all i can to make them proud ,but nothing ,all of my hardship was a trash to them ,because of that i think that im an awfull person that cannot be loved by everyone ,i dont even care if im stress or tired in doing all of the things that i do to make them happy ,<br />
i also obey what they want i respect them,but i think they dont see. <br />
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i felt so alone and sometimes i wish that ive never born

hi ,<br />
i feel exactly what you feel right now but my situation is a bit diffrent from the problem you had <br />
its not about the love for boys ,its about the love of a parent .i cant feel that they love me<br />
even though i do all i can to make them proud ,but nothing ,all of my hardship was a trash to them ,because of that i think that im an awfull person that cannot be loved by everyone ,i dont even care if im stress or tired in doing all of the things that i do to make them happy ,<br />
i also obey what they want i respect them,but i think they dont see. <br />
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i felt so alone and sometimes i wish that ive never born

I can sympathize, but the hard reality is that some people are meant to be alone. Join groups, make friends, but be honest with yourself that you will always be alone in them. Some people are just meant to be that way. I have heard it all my life. I am meant to be alone, but some people just are...

i can sympathize with you but i just cant trust anyone enough to let them get close to me anymore for fear they will hurt me again as this always seems to be the case in my life.<br />
i always put everything into a relationship only to end up having it thrown back in my face and being really badly hurt and abused, i have just come out of my second marriage to someone i trusted and deeply loved but she discarded that love and trust like it meant nothing so now i am in a really dark place where i am completely alone and crushed.

This is going to sound wierd and kind of cheesy but it's so true. <br />
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You'll find someone because despite the fact that you may or may not be hard work somebody will love you because of it, they'll want you because your there for them to do things for, your there for them to look after just like you will want to look after them. <br />
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I have a friend who is the hardest work of anyone I've ever met (belive me that's an achievement) but I would have done anything for her because when it really came down to it I loved her and who she was.

I'm going through the same.<br />
Exactly what I feel and what I want, so I can say I perfectly understands you.....it's really hard:(