I think of myself as a jigsaw puzzle cut a bit too odd. Everyone else seems to have found multiple pieces that have been able to "click" into place with them, for a small amount of time, at the least. The potentials I meet are just too far off and we usually both realize it as a mutual incompatibility.
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Encouragement for Those Who Feel Alone on Christmas Day

On Christmas day, a child was born unto a virgin named Mary, and through His life, death, and resurrection, we have the gift of Salvation; and promise of eternal life. What a time to be grateful, celebrating the life of Jesus Christ!

Unfortunately, the holiday season brings grief to many who feel alone, and reflect on being in the midst of yet another holiday season without the significant other or spouse they have been praying for.

If you are struggling with feelings of loneliness, I am talking to you.
Common emotions that trouble your spirit are:
feeling alone,
feeling cheated,
feeling that God has forgotten about you,
feeling that God does not have a plan for your life,
and feeling punished for sin you have confessed and repented of.

The worst feeling and biggest lie is that you are insignificant to God; and His promises are just words in a book for temporary relief of our afflictions, but there isn’t any real power behind them.

Let’s discuss each of these emotions in detail.

Feeling Alone

You may have gone the entire year without a significant other, but for some reason, the holiday season makes you more conscious and sensitive to your state of single-hood. Allow me to enlighten you – you are not alone, you are simply single. So, why do you feel alone? Well, I’d say it’s because of the world’s commercial message that surrounds Christmas – that is happiness comes from having a significant other or spouse. When you turn on the television during the holiday season, you see images of couples cuddling in front of a fireplace, or exchanging gifts in front of a 7 foot tree. TV shows never mention the real meaning of Christmas – the love of our merciful God shown through the birth of Jesus Christ. The meaning behind the world’s version of Christmas is that the day is about love for and time spent with your family, friends, and significant other. So, if you are without these things, you feel incomplete on Christmas day. Although, we do celebrate the birth of Christ with family, friends, and our significant other, it’s important to remember that the day is not really about those people or our relationship with them. Christmas day is about Christ and the relationship we have with HIM. You may not have a spouse, but you do have Christ, therefore, you should not feel alone. So, how do you battle this emotion called loneliness? Put your thoughts and what Christmas means to you into perspective. “Capture your rebellious thoughts, and teach them to obey Christ” – 2 Corinthians 10:5. Remember that Christmas is not significant because you have someone to run down the stairs in your home and jump into the arms of on Christmas morning. Christmas is significant because of the birth of Jesus Christ.

Feeling Cheated

You may not only feel lonely on Christmas day, but you may also feel cheated by God. You watch so many couples on the streets and on television who don’t even love God enjoy the company of a significant other or spouse, and you wonder how God could bless someone who doesn’t even serve Him with the very thing you have been earnestly praying for. Well, the world will tell you that you are not complete in life unless you have a significant other or a spouse. The world places romance very high on its list of priorities and will lead you to believe that if you do not have that romance, you are lacking. However, there are many, many other things that God desires for His children, which have a much higher priority than romance; such as the Fruit of the Spirit. God wishes to develop you in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control – Galatians 5:22-23. Why? Because God’s wisdom says that without you being fully developed in these things and in your relationship with Him, any relationship that you enter with another person will be unsuccessful. The world’s wisdom says that we should look to others for happiness and contentment, but God says to look to Him for joy and peace. In fact, He promises to keep us in perfect peace if we keep our minds stayed on Him – Isaiah 26:3.

You may look at other couples who do not serve God and think, “Man, they have it good!” However, God is able to see through to the soul of those individuals. He can see the emptiness within them that you cannot see – an emptiness that comes from being emotionally dependent on another person, instead of seeking God to quench their thirst for love and contentment. John 4:14 – “But those who drink the water that I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life.”

You might ask, “What about the people who do love God, and who are in fulfilling relationships and marriages?” Well, know that those people were not always married. They, too, went through a period of development in the Lord. The reason they are able to have the fulfilling marriages they have today, is because they submitted to God’s plan to develop them in the Fruits of the Spirit. God took them through experiences that showed them how powerful He truly is – experiences that left them dependent on God alone for their source of joy, peace, and contentment. These people learned how to feel complete in God, so that they could be a blessing to their future spouse, exemplifying the strength, peace, mind, and heart of Christ in their marriages. That is what God desires to do for you! Show God that you are ready for your spouse by passing lessons in joy, patience, and peace. Ask God to send these lessons so that you can practice. Speak the Fruits of the Spirit over your life each day so that when the test comes, those Fruits of the Spirit will be planted on the inside of you, and you will be ready!

Feeling That God Has Forgotten about you;

Isaiah 49:14-15 - Yet Jerusalem says, “The Lord has deserted us; the Lord has forgotten us.”
“Never! Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has borne?
But even if that were possible, I would not forget you!

Joshua 1:5 – Just as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you or forsake you.

Joshua 1:9 – Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

Matthew 28:20 – Behold, I am with you always, to the end of age.

How can God have forgotten about you when He promises to always be with those who love Him throughout His Word?

The enemy would love for you to believe that God is much too, busy with world affairs to be concerned with little ‘ole you. I am here to tell you that God is Omnipresent. That means He is able to be in your living room, and on the battlefields of world wars at the same time. God has not forgotten about you, He is concerned about you, and He will fulfill every promise in His Word.

Speak God’s Word over your life so that the things in His Word will manifest in your life. The Bible says in Hebrews 4:12 - For the Word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.

The Word of God is ALIVE. That means when you speak it over your life, things begin to happen in the Spirit realm to prepare for the manifestation [of what you have spoken] in this natural realm. Plant those seeds in your heart by speaking God’s Word aloud, so that they will manifest in your life.

Start with speaking the Fruits of the Spirit over your life. The first change you will likely notice is a renewal of your mind, and a change in your desires.

Feeling That God Does Not Have a Plan for Your Life

When you feel incomplete because you do not have a significant other or spouse, it is also common to feel like your life is just hanging in the balance, and you lack purpose. I am here to tell you that God does have a purpose for your life. That purpose is to bring Glory to Him. Your life should be a testimony for God’s Kingdom. When you feel that your life lacks purpose, the first thing to do is develop a closer relationship with God. You do this by reading His Word and talking to Him daily, asking for His guidance and direction, and asking for His strength to overcome sin and temptation so that your life will bring glory to Him. The more you submit to God each day, the more revelation you open yourself up to receive from God. Then, one day you will look around and find your life filled with His glory; walking in His plan for your life.

Feeling Punished for Sin That You Have Confessed and Repented Of

Galatians 6:7-10
Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life. And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith.

You may have fallen into the trap of believing that God has not forgiven you for repented sin, and therefore He will not answer your prayers for a spouse. Although, there are consequences for our bad behavior, God is merciful, and able to restore to your life what was lost when you were sowing to your flesh.

You may be dealing with the consequences from bad seeds you sowed in your past; but guess what? You can sow new seeds! Good seeds! You can sow love into the lives of others through kind or encouraging words. You can sow God’s promises into your heart and into the Spirit realm by speaking them, so that they will manifest into the joyous, glory-filled life you so desire to have in Christ. Stop focusing on those bad seeds you used to sow, and start thinking of ways to plant new, good seeds! Don’t stop at just thinking about ways to plant those good seeds, but start planting them!

There is no reason for any Christian to not obtain the promises of God when we have a Book of words that are ALIVE, waiting to manifest in our lives if we’d just open our mouths and speak them.

Final Words…

When Satan tries to attack you with feelings of loneliness, rebuke Him with God’s Word, which is the Sword of the Spirit. Say:

“Satan, I rebuke you in the name of Jesus, for it is written, “Just as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you or forsake you.”’

“Satan, I rebuke you in the name of Jesus, for it is written, “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.”'

James 4:7 says, “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

When you rebuke the devil using God’s Word, he flees! Why? Because God’s Word is the Sword of the Spirit that God instructs us to use to fight the enemy. Ephesians 6:11&17 – “Put on the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to stand against the tricks of the devil… And take the helmet of salvation, and the Sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God.”

Don’t allow the enemy to convince you that you are weird for speaking God’s Word aloud. Satan would love for you to believe that the verses in the Bible are just words on a page, when the truth is they are weapons that sends Satan and evil spirits running in the other direction!

On Christmas day, ponder on the real meaning of Christmas. Again, Christmas is not significant because you have someone to run down the stairs in your home and jump into the arms of on Christmas morning. Christmas is significant because of the birth of Jesus Christ. On Christmas day, think on all that you have to be thankful for, starting with Salvation through Jesus Christ. Spend time on Christmas day remembering and thanking God for all that He has done for you. What better way to spend Christmas than in the presence of God?

May God Bless and Keep you!
Jasmine Swann,

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