Help If You Can?

I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to be loved, like all my friends are.

But I don't qualify for love. I don't have money to throw around, and I don't have great looks. I don't have the natural confidence other guys do. I'm socially awkward and my life is going nowhere fast.

Girls don't want a guy like me, and I don't blame them for wanting what they do. But I just want to be loved.

I'm 21 and the last time I dated was 2 years ago and the girl was (as I found out after I began dating her) mentally challenged, and caused her to be way too needy and clingy. Before her it had been a year and a half since the girl that cheated on me for 6 months. And that's it. That's my whole dating experience. A cheater and a nutjob.

Meanwhile all my friends are getting married or are at least in very long term relationships, and I'm left as a 3rd or 5th wheel every time I hang out with friends. It's really gotten to the point where I don't see why I should keep on living.
mattferguson77 mattferguson77
2 Responses Jan 20, 2013

You are so young to feel so sad...I'm 54,but have felt lonely since I was 12 or so.I learned to try to enjoy things alone.Because I felt,as you do,that I wasn't good enough for love.I found myself in abusive relationships.When I finally met and married a wonderful man in 1992,he died 6 months,I've been living alone in a tiny 3 bedroom apt for a year,after finally leaving an 18 year marriage in which I allowed myself to be controlled and constantly reminded of how useless I am....well,I feel better alone....try to stand alone,and I believe with all of my heart,love WILL find you!!!!Heck,it may even find ME again!!!

Totally agree with u on this. Learn to stand alone. Be your own best friend. Enjoy things alone. Nothing is more sexier than a man who says hey let's go rock climbing, I love it. I go all the time by myself. God I wish just once a man would say that to me. My heart would melt. But most people are stuck chasing money, or satisfying there family. Live to make the child within u happy...

MATT: Sometimes in life people have a tendency to under rate them selves,much as it seems that you're doing. Step back and take a real close look at your self.Find and make a list,to your self of all your good qualities and concentrate on building your life around those good qualities. when you start feeling good about your self others around you will begin to appreciate you for who you are. you mention not having money to throw around,THAT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT for people to like you,if it is to them,they are the type of people who will only use you. Keep strong my friend,in time you will understand what I'm trying to say.THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO WILL ACCEPT AND APPRECIATE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.