Being Happy Matters Most

I've never really been into weddings. Of course the dresses are beautiful but the stress that comes with it is not wanted. I've been lucky in life to have a great man for my partner. We've been together for 12 years consecutively and I can't imagine my life without him. We both decided that we wanted to wait for marriage however when we discussed it it seemed like that was what we should say. Almost as if the natural order of things was meet, marry, and grow old together. But it got me thinking about why. Why do we need to be married to be happy? I've known a lot of couples who married and are not happy; being married doesn't equal happiness. I understand the legal benefits that come with marriage but if two adults can have a rational discussion about what to do should a relationship end, why be married?
IreneT IreneT
26-30, F
1 Response Jan 21, 2013

ryt...
as with me. we've been living together for 10 yrs. have 1 child. but, been rocky due to his infidelity...
and now he's so insisting for us to get married.
and im so unsure if i could marry him.

It would really be if you are able to forgive the infidelity. I know that's a hard pill to swallow but once you forgive it you shouldn't bring it back up however, if you feel you can't, then maybe marriage isn't the right road. Especially since you've already been together so long.