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No Children Please

Growing up, I thought that every woman wanted to grow up, get married and have kids. When I reached this, I knew that this did not apply to me. Even now, after I've graduated from college and I'm with the man of my dreams, I still do not want children. It could be because of my past. I have this feeling inside me, that no matter how many times he tells me, I feel like if I had a child, I would end up raising them alone, because that is what my mother did. I just could not do that.

queenietarts10 queenietarts10 22-25, F 4 Responses May 18, 2010

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good for you, one in 6 women today choose not to have kids its not that uncommon, and the world is too over populated as it is!

Be proud of your decision and if you ever want to change your mind you can do that too. I'm not saying you should. There are enough children in the world already.

If only the people who were too stupid to realise they shouldn't have kids had the self awareness that you do!

My parents were a prime example of people who had kids because they never questioned themselves. They had 4 children they were under equipped to deal with and the result is they have made a lot of therapists a lot of money over the lady 20 years. They also both live alone and have no relationship with any of us! If they had not bred like brainless bunnies I'm sure their lives would have been much better.

I do not regret being here. But I will not inflict myself on a child I don't want just to fit in to an outdated and irresponsible model of society.

Modern drugs mean that in the first world we do not need to breed like we did back in the past. The earth can't take any more of us. So Well Done You for standing up for your feelings and making the world a better place by being your best version of you. Just by being happy you make your world a better place.

Free Woman: You might not know this but I do not want children.<br />
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Judgmental Person: What are you talking about? All women want children.<br />
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Free Woman: Obviously not, I do not want to have children.<br />
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Judgmental Person: You must be joking, All women want children unless they fail to find a man with whom to have them.<br />
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Free Woman: Oh My God! People want and don't want to have children for different reasons.<br />
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Judgmental Person: Having children is the biggest joy of human life.<br />
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Free Woman: Not for me. I like sleeping in on weekends and being able to traveling on a whim.<br />
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Judgmental Person: That is shallow and selfish, children are the future.<br />
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Free Woman: Acquiring knowledge and being a productive and creative adult is also quiet exciting.<br />
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Judgmental Person: You will change your mind, you're to young.<br />
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Free Woman: I never wanted children and never changed my mind. It is not for me.<br />
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Judgmental Person: Being a parent is the most important job you'll have.<br />
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Free Woman: Being free from parenting duties will allow me to do many other important things.<br />
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Judgmental Person: What other things are more important? Only selfish people do not want children.<br />
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Free Woman: Oh really? Is it so selfless to have children even though your relationship sucks, or you have no parenting skills like so many parents?<br />
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Judgmental Person: You have a sarcastic and bitter take on live. When it is your child you rise up to the occasion.<br />
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Free Woman: You don't say. Can you promise me that? Will you raise the child if it turns out that I am right about myself and should not be a parent?<br />
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Judgmental Person: When you have a child you will be happy to be a mother.<br />
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Free Woman: Are you kidding me? Have you seen the mothers at the parks and shopping centers? They are on the verge of having a nervous breakdown half the time. Why would you assume you know that I am cut out for that?<br />
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Judgmental Person: Who's going to take care of you when you are old?<br />
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Free Woman: So you have children so you don't have to pay for adult care later in life? Wow! Lucky kids.<br />
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Judgmental Person: Having children will make you a better person.<br />
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Free Woman: Wow! You are something else. Is that why so many children are neglected, abused and sexually exploited by their parents? Is that why so many people feel their parents emotionally damaged them? Interesting.<br />
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Judgmental Person: You are not an adult until you have had a child.<br />
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Free Woman: Oh My God! People are using children to feel like adults? That is terrible.<br />
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Judgmental Person: Don't you want to have a family? Don't you like children?<br />
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Free Woman: I am a family with my partner and I am a wonderful person. You have a very narrow definition of a family.<br />
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Judgmental Person: What if your partner wanted children?<br />
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Free Woman: He doesn't.<br />
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Judgmental Person: But what if he did?<br />
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Free Woman: He doesn't.<br />
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Judgmental Person: Don't you want to make him a farther and your parents grandparents?<br />
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Free Woman: Not really.<br />
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Judgmental Person: Why?<br />
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Free Woman: What if I asked you why you wanted children and then claimed that you do not know what you are talking about and that you'll change you mind?<br />
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Judgmental Person: I would say you are rude and pretentious.<br />
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Free Woman: Now you know how I feel, I rest my case.<br />
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Judgmental Person: What if your parents felt the same way you do?<br />
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Free Woman: Then I would not be standing here justifying myself to a narrow-minded, rude and pretentious person like you.

If you don't want them, then don't have any. But I honestly think you would do better about raising a child, because you know how it feels to be raised alone. For the child you would do better.