Back And Forth

I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half now. We live together, moving in about 8 months after of intense dating. When we first met, we worked at the same restaurant and worked long hours together, getting out every night around. 2 am. We spent all night together every night and every day off. We couldn't get enough of each other. Everything was great, sex communication, had a ton of fun together. About 9 months ago, we both changed jobs and our lives changed dramatically. He works about 14 hour days, 6 days a week and every holiday and weekend. I work 7 hour days, 5 days a week. It went from so intense to hardly seeing each other. Although, it still felt as though things were going strong. We spent out matching days off together, went out to dinner, etc.

Ok, fast forward, don't wanna write every single detail here.

So, now, our lease is up in about a month. He has told me that he is moving out. Initially said he didn't want to break up but that has changed. Still, it is so
Much back and forth! Until he moves out, we are still sleeping in the same bed. I tried to get him to sleep on the couch but it didn't last. He comes home and tells me that he loves me and offers sweet gestures (ie: making me tea when I was sick, back rubs, telling me he feels as though we haven't gotten to speak in one week!) I have found this all so confusing! Does he want to be with me or not?

There are two other major issues: 1) our sex life has slowly dwindled away 2) it is absolutely impossible to get him to talk about his feelings

We finally had another talk yesterday and it was great. Now, it was still hard to get feelings etc out of him. But what I gathered is that he thinks something has changed between us and that we just need to spend some time apart for a little while to find ourselves again.

My friends have basically told me that I have put so much effort into this relationship that I have lost myself. Since this has happened, I have felt so lost, alone and confused. I have considered going to therapy but not sure if maybe I am just over reacting. He is honestly one of the most genuine and best people I have ever met in my life and find myself so lucky to be with such a great man when we have great days together. I don't know if I'm just unable to attach myself and being clingy or if (and what I hope) that we will get back together.

I would really like some sort of constructive advice, not just to "grow up" "get over it" or hear that "this happens to everyone". I hope this all made sense and was not too much rambling!
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Jan 14, 2013