I Have Lost My Love

I have lost the love of my life through infidelity. The confusion, pain and sadness that I experienced changed me for the better. Today, I say thank you that I went through difficult times. I have learned who I am, and I also learned that happiness comes coming from the inside, no matter where you are and what you do. I started to love again, it is not the same. My first love will always be with me. Now I remember the good things, and sometimes miss him so much. Do we only experience "the" love, you know the REAL love, once?
LittleBear LittleBear
46-50, F
8 Responses Jul 31, 2007

No, there would be no room for mistakes and learning experiences. People love- some easily, some not so easily. As long as your open to love, love will find you, again and again if need be!

No, there would be no room for mistakes and learning experiences. People love- some easily, some not so easily. As long as your open to love, love will find you, again and again if need be!

i loose my love , i am very sad now , i can not leave without my love ,my lover name is sohema rashid , i am from gujarat , lunavada, plz help me

I hope we can expereiance real love more than once. But we never love another the same again. So I see it as love just different types some more intense than others. I also think there is that one that if it doesn't work out with they will always be in your heart no matter what.

Do I seem a it confused...?

HELP!!!!!

I do believe that we can "LOVE" more than once in a lifetime, but they are different types of love, Different intensities. AS we grow older, they "SAY" we grow wiser, but in the love circumstance I dont' know if thats always true, the giddiness and the bliss comes out when we feel that we are really in love. I myself, am pretty much confused at times, but then I think mt problem is that I dont' like to hurt the ones that love "ME", so i stay with them, and suffer the consequenses. Then I'm the one that's miserable, I tend to fall in love, abd I do believ in love at 1st sight cause it has happened to me more than once. But it has left me limbo. Now, I have 2 men in love with me, but I only truely have the full love for one, and he doesnt live with me, he lives with his ex wife. We have plans on getting together latter, we don't wnat to have out excess baggage with us, so we have almost pin pointed on when we are able to move on with our lives. My, delima, I dont want to hurt the one that lives with me...But if i'm to move on...I need to do what's best for me..

i'm sorry for you experience. i too have been through this. i've loved 3x's and each of them have had affairs. i've yet to figure out what it is about me that causes this - certainly has nothing to do with lack of sex life but ... i dunno. <br />
<br />
like yourself i have come out of each situation better than i was previously. it's in the rough patches of life that we come out strong and shining - like silver in fire.<br />
<br />
to answer your question about loving the REAL love only once ... i don't think so. with each love i've encountered it's only grown stronger - so much so that i ask myself if i ever truly loved previously - knowing full well i did. <br />
<br />
i KNOW it's out there and it's possible more than once - i've had it. and if *I* can ... anyone can have it more than once. we just have to be open to it, be vulnerable to the 'what if's' and unforseen possibilities - the dangers (which tend to bless in the long run.) we have to be willing to go through the gauntlet again and that's what it boils down to.<br />
<br />
good luck and take care of YOU!