I Don't Want to Lose Him

I Had An Affair...want to Be a Better Wife

By: sb1208

Written on October 6th, 2009

Hi. I'm new here. I wanted to share my story and maybe get some feedback by someone that has been in my shoes. I know what I've done is wrong so I don't need any comments like that. I just basically want an 'ear' and maybe some support in getting my marriage by to where it should be.

My dh and I have been married 9 years and have 2 children. I am in love with my husband more than words can say. We recently moved to a neigborhood where we knew the family 2 houses down (our oldest kids went to preschool together). We always had cookouts and karaoke parties with this family this past summer. The husband would flirt with me subtly and I reciprocated. We started texting and met at a hotel one day for 30 minutes just kissing. We realized how wrong it was and left. He told his wife 3 weeks ago and I told my husband. I realize it was the worst mistake I'd ever made and it woke me up. I still can't figure out why it happened. Attention maybe. But I was getting attention from my husband, too so it's not like I was lacking it. I have no clue. All I know is I realize now that my husband is the most important person to me and I will die before I let this happen again. He has given me a 2nd chance (not that I deserve it). I want to prove to him that I'm the woman he married. I took him for granted and I want to make sure I don't do it again. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions for me to make sure I don't ever lose sight of the wonderful man and marriage I have?

Thanks for listening.

By: sb1208

Age: 26-30 , Female

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9 responses

Betrayedman

I find is surprising that most of the responses refer to an affair as a mistake. There is no definition of mistake that covers the evil act of betraying your spouse. Backing into the garage is a mistake, an affair is a conscious decision to act on an impulse knowing full well the act is immoral, wrong, uncaring, and pure evil.
I have room to talk since after 12 years of marriage and 2 kinda my wife had an affair and then lied to me about it for the next 13 years before admitting it. 25 years of this and now we're divorcing.

Sep 18, 2012
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thehunktime

nobody without mistakes....yes its hurt but....i like ur husband reaction..We are here for you u not alone

Oct 4, 2011
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Phileve

I don't think there is a person on this planet who hasn't made a mistake of some kind or other, but you are big enough to admit to yours .. Take care and good luck

Aug 5, 2011
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dare2love

I would say that you have to be overly careful not to give him any cause to suspect you of repeating this mistake. No alone time with the opposite sex,

Jul 31, 2011
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seebeyond

Good that you confess to your husband . Pls do not try to jump into this mistake again. If you keep doing it u might loose him so you keep to ur husband only n no one,Thank u

May 8, 2010
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REDRYDER28

you should never tell your spouse the things you do,re other lovers, it only hurts them ,if you do any thing you must be strong enough to carry it alone , or dont do it,,

Apr 7, 2010
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jrabbit1321

Never forget. Cherish him, your children, your life together and communicate. And remember that you probably hurt him and it may take a while for him to totally forgive him. Love him and remember we are all human. Good luck to you guys. We are here for you.

Nov 5, 2009
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sb1208

Thank you :)

Oct 6, 2009
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jchubs

just use this mistake to always keep you on your toes and make sure you express your love and appreciation for your husband you can say you love him but thats what you were doing when the mistake happened so now you have to make sure that you are SHOWING him that you love him!

Oct 6, 2009
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