9 Months Pregnant & He's Leaving

Help!  I don't want to lose my husband but he's on his way out.  I'm nine months pregnant with our son and due any time and he just told me that he is moving out.  Everything was fine two weeks ago but then something changed and now I'm losing him.  I know that he's been talking to his ex and I'm afraid that he is running to her due to stress here at home.  I have three kids and he has one kid and I am pregnant with our first one together.  I am a very kind, loving person and very easy to get a long with however because of me having an illness and being pregnant I had to take a maternity leave earlier than planned and now our finances are suffering.  Because of this, I believe he's stressed to the point that he's running away from everything as fast as he can.  What can I do besides watch him go and watch my life crumble?  

2nice2keep 2nice2keep
31-35, F
2 Responses Feb 21, 2009

Men often feel that they want to be your number one concern...like when you were dating, and there wasn't kids around crying and interrupting and nedeing something. Back then you paid attention to him exclusively, and that's what sucked him into a relationship with you.<br />
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But now, he is feeling like a paycheck. Your pregnancy and related illness are taking precedence ove him. The kid's needs and attention-grabbing are taking precedence over him. But his Ex must be enticing him with a quiet apartment with no distractions and making him feel like King Stud.<br />
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Since this all you have to work with, the only stradegy I can suggest is to try to put the kids to bed, try to down-play that you feel like a stuffed walrus. Complain to your mom and sister, not him. Give him meals that he likes, tell him what good points you appreciate about him (but casually during regular conversation) offer whatever sex play you're up for right now. If he feels that your renewed interest is not just you being desperate, but a real from-now-on change, he may come around. <br />
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Guys? What do you add?

You can't control another person. It's hard but sometimes you have to go on and make plans for your life without this man and work towards gaining support from him for your child. He may come around in time but if he doesn't keep going with your own life and don't wait for him. <br />
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I have a sister that has been married and divorced 5 times and she tells me there isn't a man on earth worth crying over.