AHHHHHH

Well I'm twenty years old and I have a two year old daughter. My husband and I eloped when we were fourteen (we dated for two weeks). Everything was fine for the most part, he does have anger issues, but other than that we had the 'normal' marriage problems. I have been a homemaker/SAHM for our entire relationship. He was working alot to support our family but I always said that I would go get a job if need be (the cost of childcare is enormous and I wanted to stay at home with her for as long as I could). Then he started hanging out with his buddies six days a week until about four a.m. I'm pretty sure he is cheating but I do not want to believe it. Then about a week ago he dropped me like a bad habit, set my clothes out on the front lawn. He doesn't have his ring and I'm sure that he's pawned it (I don't know why that bothers me). He says he loves me and that he wants to be with me but s*** just isn't working (I guess what he means is that the house was never clean enough and his dinner never warm enough). He has treated me horribly and left me with nothing, not even a home. He has taken everything from me but I still love him and I don't know why. I wish I could just let him go and be happy for once in my life. I want to be with him and I'm still trying to please him, which is impossible for anyone to do. I'm so worried about my daughter 'Little Bit' I don't know how to explain this to her, I feel like she is never again going home. He has hurt me so much but I still keep going back for more. I don't want to love him anymore....

mom2littlebit mom2littlebit
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3 Responses Mar 28, 2009

I'm sorry but he dropped you longer than a week ago, despite his words his actions should tell you that you need to move on with your life. You are young and the sooner you realize this the better off you will be in the years to come. It won't be easy but you will be happier.

hey mom2littlebit, i know your going thru hard times, maybe you could find yourself a support group. Alateens is a good group! they are in the phone book....please try to find a support group. Glad you are with us.

This may seem harsh, but grow up, please! You have a child, she should be your only concern. It is, I believe anyway, completely unfair to any child for their parents to stay together and be miserable, because of 'the kids'.<br />
If you are unhappy together, things will always be tense and unsettled, children respond to that. Rarely in a good way. Find a way to put her needs first and you'll find your way - away from him. <br />
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Just don't use her to punish him later, that's just wrong.