The Reason I Like Being A Woman

The number one reason I like being a woman is one in the same with what I hate about being a woman. I hate that being a woman has so many limitations. I hate that being a woman means that people automatically assume things about me which are not true, things that have influenced my personality and my worldview since birth. I hate that being a woman means that I am not afforded all the opportunities that would be afforded a man to become an independent human being. I love that by being a woman I can help change all of these things.

We live in a world where being born female means that you are born with lower expectations than would be placed on a male. We live in a world which sets its goals for you in a very reachable, but also very unsatisfying and unequal level. This is the heart of gender inequality; this is the reason we use feminine epithets as insults; this is the reason the feminine is deemed the inferior gender.

As a woman I have the ability to live a life of dependence, but on the other hand, that dependence makes it harder for me, even as the free spirit that I naturally am, to assert my independence. As a woman, I must live with the stereotype that is applied to me based on the women's place in history and simply on the carelessness of other women to live to their full potential. As a woman, I seek to rise above such stereotypes. As a woman, I feel it is my duty to raise the bar of expectations for all women.

Being a woman, in its most essential sense, means that I can understand things from the perspective of women's place in society and that I can change others' perspectives of women's place in society.
shannonymous shannonymous
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2 Responses Jan 8, 2013

Very well written...I love your thought process but I'm a little different I guess. I'm from a traditional Italano family so the dynamics between fathers and daughters are perhaps more structured and less organic than the typical American families I was raised around, especially in the South. That said, as I read your first paragraph I caught myself saying "I love and hate these same things" but from an altered perspective.

I hate that we have limitations but I love that we need men to help fulfill those limitations.
I hate that people assume things about me because I'm a woman but I also love that men assume I need their help or would enjoy some assistance opening a door for me.
I hate that I'm not afforded all the same opportunities but I love that I'm put on a pedestal and not required to do many of the things expected of men.
If there is gender inequality it is the man who I believes suffers most. I absolutely love being a woman and as such I can excercise an emense control over men with just a twinkle of an eye. Girl power!

"not required to do many of the things expected of men." that is the flip side of the coin, but I don't think it is a fair trade. Men are expected to do more because why? because it is part of society's belief that men are CAPABLE of doing more, and that women are not. This has ramifications far beyond opening doors and paying for dinner. I read an article a few days ago that you might be interested. It addresses some of the problems you have explained here: http://hellogiggles.com/my-inner-feminist-vs-my-inner-princess?fb_action_ids=483127221732910&fb_action_types=og.likes&fb_source=other_multiline&action_object_map=%7B%22483127221732910%22%3A197805520365217%7D&action_type_map=%7B%22483127221732910%22%3A%22og.likes%22%7D&action_ref_map=%5B%5D

Where I live I feel like women have pretty much the same opportunities and encouragement in achieving them as men. The only issue I am aware of are those involving women not getting paid as much as men. Here it seems like to get somewhere it's mostly about your grades and references. I don't feel oppressed as a female at all here, and the only person I would blame for failing would be myself. Not having the sense of being disadvantaged due to my gender is another reason why I love living in Toronto...

well, maybe it is different there

here's an interesting article from 2010 that I just found: http://www.torontosun.com/news/canada/2010/10/12/15660736.html

Yeah, so unfair that there's not more women working for the government, and so is that assumption that it would hard to juggle parenthood and a political job...as though most of the men don't have children. I'd definitely want to see more women working for the government...wish they'd make presentations about it in high schools and promote it in universities.

well, it IS hard for women to juggle parenthood and political jobs...and it would be just as hard for men if they were expected to contribute as much. Many men in those positions don't have to deal with that problem. Many men in such positions neglect their families and it is seen as a heroic sacrifice done for the sake of their contribution to the world, but in reality...I do not agree that is very heroic at all to neglect one's family for one's work. And what would be so horrible about not having children if you aren't going to help raise them in the first place? It's like children are a thing on a checklist of 'things to do in life' these days, I don't think everyone should have children though.

and yeah, i completely agree that we need more women in politics...badly.

I think that it should be more acceptable for men to contribute more to taking care of the children while their wives hold political jobs.
Maybe women just feel guiltier about not being there for their children and that's why they don't go into political careers. Guilty or they would miss their children too much to be happy with their jobs. Probably men in those jobs feel like they have to suppress those kinds of emotions because it's expected of them to, and like you said, that it's the right thing to do.
Yeah, totally agree, it's better for people who can't take care of their children not to have them. I wish people would be more responsible about deciding to have them.

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