The Joy In Giving

I've always found it easier to give than to receive. Somehow I feel guilty when someone does something for me... but this is not about me. It is about the joy of giving to others.

Over the years even my mother tried to make my anxious about receiving a gift from her - no such luck. I will buy a gift just for fun for someone - something I know they will really appreciate and I know they will really like - then I will get so excited about it, I can't wait to give it to them! To see the expression on their faces when they open it up, especially when it is something they wanted that a really long time and it is something they would have never bought for themselves... it makes feel really good.

Christmas time is especially special for me. Our shopping centre has a Christmas tree where customers can buy gifts for abused and neglected children at a local children's village. On the Christmas tree there are name tags with the children's ages and gender. You just choose the ones you want to buy for and go and select gifts for them and the shopping centre wraps the gifts. There are so many children at this village and to think that these are the only gifts they will receive that year. It is so easy to give and it is heartwarming to see that so many people open their hearts and purses for them.

This is just two examples and I do not like to write or speak about what I do for others. When I have the means to help others, I will help where I can. Yet, doing this I've also found that there are some ruthless people out there taking advantage of people like me. That saddens me as it makes me afraid of wanting to help others again. I do not like to help people who beg for help. I prefer to help people who still has pride in them and want to make something of their life. I know life is not easy... it is not easy for me too. But we all choose how we deal with our circumstances and we can choose not to let it get the better of us. We can fight our circumstances and still find a way to be positive.

I do believe if we give, we will receive back more in return - and not necessarily in money terms. But that is not why I am doing it. It makes me happy to see that I have brought joy to another's person life. Even if it was just for a few moments.
Alera Alera
36-40, F
4 Responses Jul 21, 2010

I think it's great that you love making people happy by giving gifts, and you're right, some people may take advantage of you for that. If you haven't yet, you would have to learn how to set limits and to say no, even if that would not make the other person happy. <br />
Also, I am concerned about the anxiousness and guiltiness that you describe when receiving gifts. I think that you may feel unworthy of receiving gifts or favors from others and may feel that you don't deserve them. Well, you are deserving, just as much as the other people you enjoy so much giving gifts to. Most people enjoy giving gifts and would like to make you happy as well. If you let yourself be happy, you'll make them happy too.

@TheLovePass: It is true: sometimes it is so easy to give something - a smile, a hug, a ear to listen. It does not have to be something you have to touch. Many places, like shelters needs volunteers just to help out a little bit. Sometimes it only takes a couple of minutes or maybe an hour or two out of our busy schedule to make a difference. <br />
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Thank you for your kind words. :-)<br />
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@Moksha18: Yes, God never leaves us.

I have seen that God hasn't given this kind of heart to everyone which is compassionate and loves to help others. Most of the people are too caught up in their own problems that they don't feel anything for others..even your own people. I remember two years back, i was to get payment from somewhere and at the last moment it didn't happen and i was to send fees to my daughter who was in the hostel. I didn't know what to do. I discussed it with my family, closest friends but nobody offered any help or showed any concern. They were all well off and could have easily help me but they didn't. The help did come but from the people i least expected...People can spend massive money on their own comforts but are least bothered for others.. I am just the opposite and i am happy the way i am as God is there..always with me..and He has been so graceful to me.

It is very refreshing to hear how much you enjoy helping others. I would consider that a gift, or even a special talent because you have the power to help change lives by giving...a smile, a gift, love, an encouraging word, etc. Very nice!