Just To Be ClearI like to helping others. I know the feeling being clueless and lost, and worse, everyone seems too busy to help or offer some comfort. It so miserable. I can't let other feel that miserable.
In other hand I also get a lot of helps by people, sometimes even by random stranger. Even though the act is simple like hold the door open or just friendly smile, it brighten my day. And I have intention to pay it forward. "If you can, just help" that is attitude that I want to apply in my life.
But just because I like to help, doesn't mean I always gonna help you blindly if you ask me. There are things that you have to do on your own.
If you "need" my help and I have the capacity to help, then yes I'd love to help. But if you ask me to help to save you from some trouble and shifted the responsibility to me, sorry, the answer would be no, you have to do it yourself.
I like to help, but I ain't your personal helper that you can moan to and whine to every time you can't deal it yourself.
Just to be clear, I try to be nice to everyone but I draw the line between being nice and being doormat. .