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Does It Make Me A Bad Person

Does it make a bad person if I feel like the people I help don't really deserve my help? Sometimes it just feels like everyone's so ungrateful and they don't even realise the lenghts which I have gone to help them or to make them happy. I really do enjoy making the lives of others easier but I a part of me wishes I could just give everyone the finger and tell them to take care of themselves. It used to be enough just to see a glimpse of happiness on a persons face but now I'm growing weary of never getting any recognition for the things I've done. I've once been fired because I chose to help a friend and that time all I got was a "thanks" as if what I did was pouring her some more coffee. I can't bring myself to tell people how I feel because I don't want to make them feel bad. Maybe I'll get over it.

daphnis daphnis 18-21, M 8 Responses Jan 18, 2010

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Dont think theres something wrong with you.. I'd say its their ****.. society is sick. just do what feels right, i enjoy helping people too.. but rlly sometimes a lil gratitude would be nice. if they cant do that, there's something wrong with them, not u! take care

Oh Yeah... No Way that Makes you a Bad Person! No! :D Bare that in Mind! Hahh :)

Hey Daphnis :D



I completely understand where ya coming from, and i am not surpised to the way you feel. I Love helping people, but people who appreciate the help. But the problem is you dont know if they woud or not appreciate and value that help you have given until you have already done it.



But ya know what, i help them anyway. Because, i think its more about you (or me) than them! Its more between you and Nature or God... not them! LOL



Simply, your doing your part in Life... if they dont do theres... oh well. Trust me, its their own loss. There are people that highly appreciate the help and some just dont see it, they seem to be a little blind. It just seems as though you havent come across these beautiful people who really value the help. But Nature plays tricks, yo gota keep putting effort into what you truely beleive deep inside.



But Hey! Getting fired... for what, ya know what! Whatever you got fired for, im sure it weren't a real good reason... anyhow, it means you made a mistake by helping this person, because really and truly, are you helping this person or are you just making your Life harder. Helping is different to becoming silly (to the extent of becoming a slave), i guess one needs to know their limits and balance it all out.



Balance... its literally a Key! :D Dont Let Them Take Advantage!



Take Good Care :D Peace & Blessings :)

it's not that i don't enjoy helping people but when i lose my job and can't afford the place i was going to move into it would be nice if someone would've said more than thanks. i don't think anyone can actually say they expect ANYTHING in return. i mean if everyone you help would just give you the finger and tell you to "f.ck off" i doubt you'd be helping people as much as you had before. and i pretty much feel like the things i've done to help some people seem completely indifferent to them and they have no appreciation for them. the happiness that comes from helping people comes from knowing that you made their life easier or happier. i mean if you loan someone money for rent and they act like they expected you to do that anyways are you still gonna feel good? i highly doubt it.

The art of helping others doesn't come up with the wish of wanting sth in return. Helping others is all I do and all I care at this moment. and I could say this feels awesome. even when i know I'm not having anything in return... just enjoy doing this. if you feel you can't, then stop helping people.

Sorry about that daphnis, i do identify with you on that, but i think lovelife2themax has said it all.

Thumbs up to you lovelife!!!

You know, sometime life seems so unfair...but if your motive is helping people, then its best you do it knowing NO ONE IS GOIN TO APPRECIATE YOU; but you just help them anyway.



I pray you heal through this emotion.And remember, God rewards you for every little thing you do in life, especially when p'ple don't seem to appreciate. So keep up doing good.

Sorry about that daphnis, i do identify with you on that, but i think lovelife2themax has said it all.

Thumbs up to you lovelife!!!

You know, sometime life seems so unfair...but if your motive is helping people, then its best you do it knowing NO ONE IS GOIN TO APPRECIATE YOU; but you just help them anyway.



I pray you heal through this emotion.And remember, God rewards you for every little thing you do in life, especially when p'ple don't seem to appreciate. So keep up doing good.

Everyone likes to be recognized or appreciated for the good things we do, but if that is our driving reason for helping others then we will almost certainly come up short.



There will always be people who will also try to take advantage of our generosity.



But reread your post and ask yourself if it sounds like you are sincerely interested in helping people to help people or in order to get something in return?



I prefer to help people for the sake of helping and to disregard/ignore all other motives. I will also do things that no one will ever know about because I don't want to get caught up in expecting something in return. For one, people can start to question your motives if you are expecting something in return and then they feel obligated by your gift of self...ie time, treasure or talent and that's no good.



Something to think about. Best Wishes! Mel