Intelligence and Challenge

I think education inside and outside of the house has to do with why kids turn out like this. When kids are in school, the school doesn't teach them all there is to know on every subject and a little something extra that may not be available in the average public or private school. That is why teaching never ends no matter how old you get and people of all ages should know this, not just kids because that is a very valuable lesson all on its own.

It can be passed along because we all need to learn how to value education if we never learn what I stated above. Our problem seems to be that we give up on education and learning anything once we're out of school, medical school, or anything like that but life can also teach us lessons. I mean, if anything EP itself has taught us that.

I'm not really sure but maybe it's a bit of both -- the biochemistry contribution and that it works across the board. I mean, depending on who the person is, their upbringing, and their ancestors - it can be their biochemistry. However, if not, some people are a product of heredity and their environment. Have you noticed how many people are dumb, shallow, and self-absorbed? Well, those are the people that make unintelligent people feel comfortable being just who they are.

You've both got a point about other aspects that draw people together. Depth of connection can certainly be one, and conversations can certainly touch deeper levels with experience from both sides. But these alone do not necessarily mean that connections will form as well as they could. MizzBlue touched on a third point without pointing it out, delivery is key, but how an effective delivery comes to be is often a function of insight, of knowing how to connect to the person or people you're talking to.



So, yes, it is a bunch of traits that work together to make great connections, though as Dee pointed out, depth can be achieved without intelligence - many of our early emotional connections are like this. Looking back to my high school romances, very few of them connected on an intellectual level.

I think Dee is on to something here. I enjoy the very intelligent and witty conversation -- I love when my boundaries are challenged, and someone can logically present another point of view without saying, 'that is stupid', etc. I like that they actually have something to back up why they believe that way.



I also believe with Dee that maybe it isn't all intelligence. Sometimes I think experience can put a very insightful spin on a conversation. It may depend on the delivery - delivery definitely needs to be there, but some people bring the most exciting conversations to light - and they are okay.



Won't say more - trying to keep this short!! :)

You bring up a lot of interesting points. Is it purely intelligence that leads to depth of conversation? I guess I ask this because it is depth that grabs my interest just as much as the intelligence behind it. Do they always go hand in hand? Can you have intelligence without depth or depth without intelligence? Do a degree, perhaps. But I think 'chemistry' between two people has perhaps as much to do with enjoying a conversation as the intelligence and depth behind it. By chemistry I mean some unknown force that attracts two people to one another. And it does not have to have a sexual component to it. Like when you meet someone, whether they be the same gender as you or not, and you immediately "click" with them. It's like you've known them all your life, but you don't know them. Your inner essence and theirs connect, but you don't know anything about them. This is why it's so easy to fall for someone online, I think, because it is the inner person you are getting to know, and you don't have much idea about how they are in the outside word. Social conventions do not apply as much and a feeling of intimacy is created much more quickly in a virtual environment, it seems. So when all of these things come together.. intelligence, depth, chemistry.. you have a winning combination. I don't think this is something that happens frequently.. it seems to be more of a rare event.. so that when it happens, we take notice immediately. Another component, which may have to do with the chemistry, is the feeding of ideas from one another. One person brings up a point which opens a door for the other person to bring forth ideas.. it's like a meeting of minds where creativity and inspiration enter into the transaction. Perhaps it's simply a matter of souls touching, which can happen from any distance (the professor across the room, even when it is more one sided, or a conversation across miles and time...). Anyways, your story opened a flood of ideas for me... hope they came gushing out in coherent form, lol ;)