I Need More

True conversation is difficult to come by.It is supposed to be a two way street permitting the uninterrupted back and forth flow of thoughts and,hopefully, illuminating responses.In actuality, it is,more often than not,used as a mode of "talking at" someone with no interest in eliciting a thoughtful and perhaps even an insightful response. why is that.?

Well Written and I rather talk about meaningful subjects than mundane ones ... I agree with you 1000%

I spent a frustrating afternoon at a party having conversations with people I didn't know lasting less than 2 minutes before an interruption.



Needless to say it was a long day, concluded by some more important conversations here.

I understand this too, I really don't think that I have had a meaningful conversation since the 90s either and even then they were few and far between! I have to use ep and the internet in general to read and join in discussions that interest me, without this there would be virtually nothing to stimulate my brain!! All anyone wants to do, is as you say, moan about mundane things or sit in a vegetative state in front of the TV!...thank goodness for outlets such as ep!!

I feel similar. Sometimes I just think what is the point of that? We are all different and all have different interests but everyone my age seems so obsessed with things like fake tans, celebrities, calorie counting and don't get me wrong, I am a real girls girl. I love fashion, getting manicures, beauty treatments, shopping but sometimes I want more then that. I want conversations about the things that matter. I want my questions to be answered, to have someone to relate to me and to share what REALLY gets me and which makes me me. Sometimes I think I am just too deep and sensitive for this world. I just want to know that it all means something if that makes sense.

Thank you for writing this. xx



PS: Had to laugh at the *stuck pig* comment as well. As you know, I don't have kids but working with them I know what sound you mean!

The bane of my life has been trying not to appear anti-social and "slightly up myself" while the conversation around me centres on football (aussie rules or rugby) or cricket, latest video clip, rock group, famous star's divorce.....



At parties I often sit in the corner, until I overhear something with some depth...usually to do with religion, sex, politics etc and then join in.



My former in-laws had a nack for the trivia of life, my mum also (Auntie Irene's bunions....). I don't think I ever looked down at them, but when my wife and I split, they took great delight in telling me I had a superiority complex. ( I think it more likely projection on their part - they felt inferior).



One benefit of the net which is under-appreciated is that it has made finding like minded people much easier...especially those with at least one similar aspect, but very different other aspects - to encourage variety. This site does that much better than facebook etc which promotes sameness through the linking strategy (your friends or relatives).

Yes, it gets to the point where you crave being able to talk to someone about something other than the price of fish. I recently started back at college and it's been great to be in an environment where it's possible to discuss many and varied things in depth. I've always been the sort of person who has a lot of totally useless information at my fingertips, I guess that comes with age to some extent!

I have just spent time away visiting relatives ..they are still telling the same stories they've been churning out for past twenty years or more .. nothing new at all :(



I find most people prefer to watch tv than talk about anything meaningful. We are all on a very short journey in this life yet most of us talk about anything but .. very sad and short sighted.

I thank you very much, your points and insights are spot on. I enjoyed your comments, I am glad that you stopped by!

I think there are academics out there commenting on the effect of possible "overuse" of the internet for both children and adults. It does seem that people generally have difficulty in maintaining a conversation that is of any meaning at all. Maybe peoples attention span is just getting less and less? Maybe people are too self-centred to be able to pay attention to anyone but themselves for any amount of time?

Actually, butter was two for five bucks yesterday, it gets higher every time I buy it......and THAT was the sale price...I used to use margarine, but, I heard on Oprah that margarine has those unhealthy fats or preservatives or something or others in it and so, I swore it off. Yes, I know, butter is nothing but pure lard bucket fat, but, what is a girl to do, my wrinkles ruin any chance of me ever looking good again anyway, I think maybe the fat makes me look a little younger, you know how fat young girls are nowadays..any whooo So, when I got my butter there was this woman in the dairy isle and I noticed that she was buying tons and tons of sour cream, well, I just had to find out why, I mean who needs that much sour cream? So I got closer, to hear what she was saying....she was with her husband, well I guess he was her husband, they looked married, he was kind of pounchy and so was she..anyway...she said, "Larry, can I freeze sour cream?" Larry sad that he didn't know, I know, but, I didn't say because it really wasn't any of my business, you know they both sort of looked familiar, but, what do you do, just walk right up and ask them who they are, I think maybe she went to school with my sister and he used to drive the school bus, back to the sour cream, there was just tons and tons of it, I wonder? Every time I stand around in the dairy isle like that I just start achin' in my hips, and legs,,,some days my knees won't even allow me to sit on the toilet, oh my god, did you see Linda Smith, honey she is on a cane, how old is she, well, I swear, she is younger than you and I, now about that Larry, do you think that might have been Larry Smith, wasn't he good looking in school, didn't Brenda Jones date him in the tenth grade, my god, if it is him, he is so old looking..................;-)))))

Did you know that the price of margerine has gone up by FIVE cents!!? And by the way, it's cold out, must be the winter, I guess!

A friend and I describe these conversations as "how to freeze rhubarb" after she once mistakenly attended a women's institute meeting. They made the topic last over an hour!

Oh, how I understand this! I can't count the times I've been trapped in said conversations with people just like this as my eyes glaze over. I try to change the subject to something more stimulating but... alas. They are a crafty bunch!



I'd also add that I want to run when people start talking about their aches and pains ad nauseum. (I got trapped in such a conversation over Christmas, but my delightful glass of red wine helped me greatly)



I laughed out loud at your chicken broth example... thanks for that.