The Benefits of a Simple Phrase.

It struck me just recently, whilst staring at some of the misfortunes stomping past on the mood-o-meter of My Circle, that the very nature of the Experience Project is healing, in a small way.

During fair weather, people are usually fairly intent on maintaining and owning their sense of identity - a distinctiveness and individuality.

When matters turn sour, the misfortune becomes acutely personal - it is too close. It becomes exclusive - you are alone in your experience of it.

The very nature of saying "I  _________" does two very powerful things.

Most obviously it either means you have joined with a group of fellow humans in similiar circumstances, or that you have opened up the possibility that others might join you in it. That alone is enough to take a fraction of the sharpness off, and is one of the most clearly stated core principles of the EP.

More subtly, though, the language and process itself if quite important. It releases the ownership - whatever was oppressing you before is now *out* there, and separate from the "I". Whilst that may not be much distance between you and the issue in question, it is still some space, and a little breathing space is sometimes all that one needs. In a paradoxical way, starting the sentence with "I" makes it no longer so personal. It is not the end of everything - it is now an experience, it is something that has become part of your life, but it is not *you*, it is not on top of you, or part of you. By placing it out there, it is something that has the possibility of being managed, handled, coped with.

Whilst it may not be enough to cure anyone of any ill, the mere shape and process of the Experience Project; that basic grammatical construction, "I _________", it's a little healing in of itself.
TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo
31-35, M
6 Responses Aug 8, 2007

For me, experience project is a Purge... It's sharing the secret parts of me with people that maybe can relate... either way, once its there ... i don't have to think about it in a non-productive way anymore. I can acknowledge problems from an outside view and think about how to solve them rather than obsessing..<br />
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and sometimes.. i can have a little fun too ;)

I love how you put thought into everything :D

Hello,<br />
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Is me lucy oluderba please listen<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN BEAUTY OF A HUMAN<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN LIKE GOLDS<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN FRESH FLOWER<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN FEELING<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN HAPPINESS<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN PLEASED<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN SHARING<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN THINKING<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN SUGGESTION<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN CONNECTION<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN WASTING TIME<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN KILLER OF LIFE<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN TEASING<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN JOKING<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN GOOD RELATIONSHIP<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN GOOD PARTNER<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN CALLING IN A SAVIOR CONDITION<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN LEAVING IN A SAVIOR CONDITION<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN LIVING IN A GOOD CONDITION<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN TIME PASS<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN INVESTIGATE<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEANS A PART OF LIFE<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEANS A NICE THING<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEANS A RIVER<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN WINDS<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN VERY SENSITIVE RELATION<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN TREES OF FOOD<br />
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FRIENDSHIP MEAN TASTE THAN SUGAR<br />
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So lets be friends forever!!<br />
lucyloveoluderba@yahoo.co.in<br />
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Yours forever<br />
Miss lucy.

Ah, beautifully said, TD.<br />
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My friend used to have a lapel button that read, "Does the noise in my head bother you?" I've had the experience too that the burden is worst when we keep it internalized - the acid-voiced critic more convincing, the sense of alienation more undeniable.<br />
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I look forward to seeing what takes root here at the EP, and I'm happy to know there's someone thoughtful and compassionate to share it with.

Taking ownership is quite a powerful healing tool...

Enjoyed this analysis!