Reverse Racism Hurts Too

I once went to see a Bobby Blue Bland concert in North Philadelphia.  My girlfriend and I were the only white faces in a room of about 300 music lovers dressed to kill.  All the people there went out of their way to be nice and polite to us, they couldn't have been friendlier or more accepting.  The experience helped me understand how "token blacks" feel in a room full of white people.  It was like they were patronizing us, like we were little kids.  To this day I still have the psychic scars to show for that night.
ElLagarto ElLagarto
56-60, M
14 Responses Jul 7, 2007

I'm with you, Blue, I don't see race at all. All I see is the Human Race, and as far as I'm concerned, it's a race that can't be won.

I do experience racism from time to time.<br />
I won't go into the details because it would start some hateful comments.<br />
It is a very powerful and sad thing in todays society.<br />
Race is no issue for me. Even a black in a room full of white would be treated the same as anyone else.<br />
<br />
Racism seems to be exhibited more the larger the minority group. That has been my experiences.

When I think about how well I've been treated over the years because I'm white, it just makes my blood boil. From Day #1 I've had advantages thrown in my face, special privileges flung at me, undeserved kindness and generosity has rained on me like hailstones - it's all JUST SO UNFAIR!!!!!

I guess I want Utopia. I wish skin color wa a non-issue. One day my daughter came in from playing with the kids in the neighborhood. I ask her the normal questions including "Who were you playing with?" She told me the boys name but I couldn't put a face with it. I then ask her "Is he the black boy that lives on the cul-de-sac?" I will never forget her reply, she saud, " I don't know...I guess his dark." Why can't we all live our lives like that? He was just a kid in the neighborhood, she didn't care or even notice what color he was. I guess that is good too, because when she was 14 we adopted the world's most adorable little girl...and she is African American.

...just thought I'd mention that reverse-racism is when one is prejudiced against the race to which they belong. When blacks are prejudiced against whites that's regular ol' racism.

" reverse-racism is when one is prejudiced against the race to which they belong."

Internalized racism is more like it, I think.

This is precisely what Malcolm X said, one of his many positions that alienated people. Essentially he maintained that if blacks were waiting for white people to come to their aid and make good on past crimes they would die of old age first. Like you, he said that change had to come from within and it began with self-respect and self-discipline. To paraphrase Chris Rock, "What a white man fears most is a black man with a job."

i'm native american, although i appear caucasian. i am not trying to 'take back my land' nor did i own slaves but i'm heaped in with the 'white' race wherein i've been treated 'differently' or negatively by african americans. it could be my location (north of the mason dixon but just barely) however, if we want change the best place to start is ourselves. what i mean by this is - if blacks want racism to cease, they too need to contribute - whole heartedly! that goes for all races, all people! start within yourself and attempt to note how you react to different races in different social and business situations and adjust your behavior accordingly ... otherwise ... things remain as they are and possibly get worse.

Good points, AbbyNormal. If people wish to change things that need changing (and racism is no exception), everybody, whoever they may be have to contribute in some way or other, towards making that happen. Otherwise, racism will become like an unchecked cancer...it'll spread and become all-consuming. Even seemingly small ways of contributing to at least ameliorating the problems of racism are good ways to contribute.

When you become attuned to racism, you begin to see it everywhere, manifesting itself in a variety of ways. Sometimes I think the more subtle ways, such as what you described, hurt more.

I understand what you're saying - after all my ancestors did not own slaves. Still and all, if I were black, I think it might be hard for me to "forgive and forget."

Meanwhile here in New Zealand the indigenous races are miss-appropriating the African American's culture. They seem to think that they've suffered in the same way, when it couldn’t be further from the truth. If what you say about their forgiveness and attitude is true, I wish the Maori would adopt some of those values and stop trying to be a separate part of society. We all have ancestors that had wrongs done by them, doesn’t mean we have to avenge it.

You've made some good points, smebro, but, human nature being what it is, they're far easier said than done, if one gets the drift. I also think that, with rare exceptions, when one looks at history more closely, just about everybody, of every racial, religious or ethnic group has ancestors that've had wrongs done to them, and the tendency to avenge it is endemic throughout the human race, and through the world, in general.

you're right. actually the lesson i learned from that night was that - at least in this case - blacks were far more accepting and emotionally generous than whites. indeed, considering the abuse that's so unfairly heaped on them, i often marvel that black americans don't riot in the streets on a daily basis. american blacks have a certain dignity and wisdom american whites will never have.

Glibness is hard to convey in written form, my dry sense of humor doesn't always translate well in written form either.

you are right of course, i was being glib.

While I can understand why you may have felt patronized, I would think that is better than feeling threatened or that they thought of you as less than human, which, unfortunately, is how some made blacks feel many decades ago. I think how one emerges from such an experience as yours has a lot to do with one's perspective.