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I love the blues and in the past the only place in my hometown where one could see and hear live blues bands was a bar on the east side of town which is predominantly black. I decided to go once to see a band i had heard of i got there sat down at the bar and waited a half hour for the bartender to ask if i wanted anything. I ordered a drink and settled in to enjoy the evening. A couple minutes later 2 "gentlemen" approached me and asked what i was doing there, and i told them i had come to see the band. They then proceeded to tell me i had 5 minutes to finish my drink and get out or they would throw me out (nice of them to let me finish my drink anyway). On my way out the door i heard several racial comments and at the door i was told "don't come back white boy." Sadly this was my first interaction with the black community in my hometown outside of a school atmosphere and my last.

ihaveanameitsrick ihaveanameitsrick
46-50, M
16 Responses Mar 8, 2009

I think you just got a bad crowd on a bad night - don't let it sour you. You obviously love the music, and if you go with an attitude of respect and humility you'll be fine. I'm a blues, jazz, R&B and soul fanatic. Over the years I've attended many performances where I was the only white person in the room. I always felt welcomed. - "Jerks" come in all colors.

yes, they certainly are.

what are you going to do? some people are just plain ignorant.

oh ok i get it now had to go reread the comments LOL

um...ok" <br />
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"monetary reparations" you mentioned further back in the posts that you didn't agree with... remember? That's the reason I went from comment from "How To Sing The Blues" into posting my own opinion about the idea of "monetary reparations" <br />
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savvy?<br />
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~Tayer

uhm.....ok

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/American_Civil_War<br />
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Facts were gathered from above link :)

True, IhaveanameitsRick, <br />
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And having been reminded of those two little words - - monetary reparations -- I thought, Now wait a minute here - didn't americans already pay "reparations" with their own blood? The American Civil War (1861–1865), also known as the War Between the States.<br />
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Lincoln's Emancipation Proclamation made ending slavery in the South a war goal, and dissuaded the British from intervening. Confederate commander Robert E. Lee won battles in the east, but in 1863 his northward advance was turned back at Gettysburg and, in the west, the Union gained control of the Mississippi River at the Battle of Vicksburg, thereby splitting the Confederacy. Long-term Union advantages in men and material were realized in 1864 when Ulysses S. Grant fought battles of attrition against Lee as Union general William Sherman captured Atlanta, Georgia and marched to the sea. Confederate resistance collapsed after Lee surrendered to Grant at Appomattox Court House on April 9, 1865.<br />
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The American Civil War was the deadliest war in American history, causing 620,000 soldier deaths, and an undetermined number of civilian casualties, ending slavery in the United States, restoring the Union, and strengthening the role of the federal government. The social, political, economic and racial issues of the war decisively shaped the reconstruction era that lasted to 1877, and brought changes that helped make America a united super power.<br />
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Maybe it's true "Money" will buy baby a new pair of shoes - and plenty more too - but giving ones life for another is a noble thing in my book. <br />
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No greater love has man than this; that he lay down his life for his friends. Or so I've heard. <br />
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~Tayer

i agree with most of that but remember you can also sing the blues in the morning as Howlin' Wolf did on Moanin' in the Morning

How To Sing The Blues<br />
1. Most Blues begin “woke up this morning.”<br />
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2. “I got a good woman” is a bad way to begin the Blues, unless you stick something nasty in right away:<br />
I got a good woman—with the meanest face in town.<br />
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3. Blues are simple. After you have the first line right, repeat it. Then find something that rhymes. Sort of.<br />
I got a good woman—with the meanest face in town.<br />
I got a good woman—with the meanest face in town.<br />
She got teeth like Margaret Thatcher and she weighs 500 pounds.<br />
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4. The Blues are not about limitless choice. You stuck in a ditch, you stuck in a ditch; ain't no way out.<br />
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5. Blues cars are Chevies, Cadillacs and broken-down trucks. Other acceptable Blues transportation modes include Greyhound buses and southbound trains. Walkin’ plays a major part in the Blues lifestyle. So does fixin’ to die. Blues don't travel in Volvos, BMWs, or SUVs. Jet aircraft and state-sponsored motor pools ain't even in the running.<br />
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6. Adults sing the Blues. Teenagers can’t sing the Blues. They ain't fixin' to die yet. In the Blues, "adulthood" means old enough to get the electric chair when you shoot that man in Memphis.<br />
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7. You can have the Blues in New York City, but not in Brooklyn or Queens. Hard times in Vermont, Tucson, or North Dakota are just depression . The best places to have the Blues are still Chicago, St. Louis, and Kansas City. You cannot have the blues in any place that don't get rain.<br />
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8. A man with male pattern baldness ain't the blues. A woman with male pattern baldness is. Breaking your leg while skiing is not the blues. Breaking your leg when your broken-down pickup truck rolled over on it is. <br />
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9. The following colors do not belong in the Blues: violet, beige, mauve (unless you’re truly desperate for a rhyme).<br />
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9. You can’t have the Blues in an office or a shopping mall. The lighting is just plain wrong. Go outside to the parking lot or sit by the dumpster.<br />
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10. Good places to have the Blues: the highway, a jailhouse, an empty bed, the bottom of a whiskey glass. Bad places to have the Blues: ashrams, gallery openings, weekends in the Hamptons, golf courses, Tiffany's, and Ivy League institutions.<br />
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11. No one will believe it’s the Blues if you wear a suit, unless you happen to be an old black man—and it’s an old black suit.<br />
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12. Do you have the right to sing the Blues? <br />
Answer “Yes” if:<br />
a. your first name is a southern state—like Georgia<br />
b. you’re blind<br />
c. you shot a man in Memphis.<br />
d. you can’t be satisfied.<br />
e. you're older than dirt <br />
Answer “No” if:<br />
a. you once were blind but now can see.<br />
b. you’re deaf<br />
c. the man in Memphis lived.<br />
d. you have a trust fund or an IRA.<br />
e. you have all your teeth <br />
f. you were once blind but now can see <br />
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13. Blues is not about color, it's about bad luck. Tiger Woods cannot sing the blues; Gary Coleman could. Ugly old white people got a leg up on the blues. Julio Iglesias and Barbra Streisand will never sing the Blues.<br />
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14. If you ask for water and baby gives you gasoline, it’s the Blues. Other acceptable Blues beverages are: wine, whiskey, muddy water, beer, black coffee . Blues beverages are NOT: mixed drinks, kosher wine, sparkling water, Snapple, Starbucks Frappuccino, or Slim Fast. Although Rubber Biscuits and the Wish Sandwich are famous blues snacks, better stick to common blues grub like Greasy Bar-b-que, Fatback and beans, and Government cheeze. Blues food is never: Club sandwich, Sushi, or Crème brule.<br />
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15. If it occurs in a cheap motel or a shotgun shack, it’s a Blues death. Stabbed in the back by a jealous lover is a Blues death. So is substance abuse, the electric chair, or being denied treatment in an emergency room. It is not a Blues death to die during liposuction or from tennis elbow.<br />
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16. Excellent names for female Blues singers: Sadie, Big Momma, Bessie, or Fat River Dumpling. Excellent names for male Blues singers: Willie, Joe, Little Willie, Lightning, or Big Willie. Singers with names like Muffy, Sierra, Auburn, Alexis, Gwenyth, Sequoiz, Brittany or Rainbow are not permitted to sing the Blues, no matter how many men they shoot in Memphis.<br />
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17. The Build Your Own Blues Singer Name Starter Kit:<br />
a. Name of physical infirmity (Blind, Cripple, Lame, Asthmatic)<br />
b. First name (from above lists) or name of fruit (Lemon, Lime, Kiwi)<br />
c. Last name of a U. S. president (Jefferson, Johnson, Fillmore, etc.)<br />
Examples: Blind Lime Jefferson, Cripple Kiwi Fillmore, etc. (Okay, maybe not "Kiwi"…)<br />
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18. I don't care how tragic your life; if you own a computer, you cannot sing the Blues.<br />
You'd best destroy it. Fire, a spilled bottle of Mad Dog, or shotgun. <br />
Maybe your big *** woman just done sit on it. I don't care <br />
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19. Hey there, you can READ! This too be a big ol' problem. Most folks singin' the<br />
Blues ain't never had much a chance for education. In the Blues… the three R's stand<br />
for Railroads, Runnin' and Rehab.<br />
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20. It gots to be dark to sing the blues, preferably after midnight. Singin' da blues at noon is forbidden.<br />
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21. If none of the above works, try one last, pathetic stab at authenticity: name your guitar. Remember, Lucille is taken. <br />
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22. Epitaph on a blues musician's tombstone: "I didn't wake up this morning" <br />
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by Lame Mango Washington <br />
(attributed to Memphis Earlene Gray with help from Uncle Plunky, revisions by Little Blind Patti D. and Dr. Stevie Franklin)<br />
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~Tayer (:~0)

thats ludicrous i've been called a monkey as a term of endearment

and that was and is wrong and is illegal to do today....what else are we supposed to do? i refuse the idea of monetary reparations because many of the people in America have no connections to slavery. my family for instance didn't even come to this country till the 1890's. you could argue that i have benefited from slavery but the same argument could be made for everyone of any color living here today black white or green! no one questions that slavery and racism are horrible (well almost nobody) and i would argue that your example of 50 years ago is ancient history as well. i wasn't here then were you??? i have talked to older black men guys in their 60's still driving truck and they have told me this is NOT what Dr. King wanted. he wanted equal rights under the law and we have that now in America. this is an issue that it is time to move beyond we need to quit sniping at each other because of things that happened 50,100 or 200 years ago. my god passion should we all still be pissed at the british because they taxed our ancestors unfairly? lets go back even further when the egyptians had white slaves should we be complaining about that? if we don't move beyond this issue where does it end??

i think these are things that are ancient history. i think as a society we need to move past slavery it was abolished over 150 years ago. i think its time to move on.

i'm going to go out on a limb here and say that not a single black person living in America today came here as a slave. i personally think the reason we have so much racism still going on here is because we talk about it too much. it seems some blacks (especially criminals and politicians) are constantly playing the race card, using it to excuse their actions. while whites get defensive because we keep getting accused of racism any time we suggest something is fundamentally wrong in the black community (which i think is painfully obvious) particularly among black males. even some blacks are starting to admit this and address it and they get attacked in the media. we all have our problems black, white, hispanic, asian or martian. there will always be prejudice its human nature to fear or dislike what is different and, sadly there will always be racism but the two are not the same and racism can and hopefully will be ended.

in my hometown yes. i since found out that racism is a very big problem in my hometown and it goes both ways so just for the sake of personal safety i stay out of the black neighborhoods. now in my work i deal with black people everyday my company hires a lot of black men and i have sat all day talking and joking with them i get along great with most of them. its just in my hometown that i can't at least since highschool anyway. i had a couple of guys i talked to back then who i got along with pretty well.

It shouldn't be your last experience! My husband knew some people are like that no matter who or what they were. So he would call before hand and hang out. He used to go to churches, sing and dance. He'd make lumpia alongside the ladies which was great because he had this thing for Filipinas. (I don't know if that's why he liked me but maybe?) He was the only tall white guy at Latino dance clubs. He always made sure he was welcome before hand. That's not to say there weren't times where he made a mistake and wasn't welcome. But he was a bouncer since he was 15 so he knew how to get around situations...for lack of a better explanation...Maybe that's where he learned to make sure before hand?