Epically Failed!

I'm a 22 year old and by now I should have started to settle down in life but no, I've nothing in hand. I graduated last year with an engineering degree but I'm still jobless. There are no jobs in market, especially for freshers.
I always thought that after college getting a job will keep my life moving, I'll pursue my career as well as hobbies, but it has come to a full stop.
I'm an extreme introvert and have always been struggling with life to live like a typical normal person. Until my graduation, I managed to live normally. I used to hang out with friends, go shopping, and had other activities but now that I've nothing to do, I sit in my bedroom all day long and day after day I'm getting more and more into my introvert shell. I do not talk to anyone other than family members and that too is just about meals. I do not feel any desire to talk to anyone or meet anyone, like I was in my childhood. I've no real activities except that I go cycling in evening just to keep myself physically fit.
I'm afraid that when I've to face real life, I will not be able to do that. I feel like every part of me is rusting and after sometime it will become impossible for me to go out in the world and compete with a normal person.
beyondrepair beyondrepair
26-30, F
11 Responses Aug 3, 2010

study girl UPSC cat :)

Don't be so hard on yourself. Getting your engineering degree is a great accomplishment! Keep pounding the pavement looking for a job and even move to another city if necessary and eventually you will find the right job for you.

When I graduated college I could not find a job in my field right away so I took another job that allowed me to support myself but kept looking and 8 months later I landed an awesome job in my field.

Good luck!

The struggle is the great lesson. Mind you, the great benefit in this life is struggle. It is through that we pass. If there is any road to heaven, it is through hell. Through hell to heaven is always the way.

Plod on through the dark, brave-heart, with all thy might and main.

~ Swami Vivekananda

I feel like I'm in the same boat now. It sucks.

This is an old story and things have changed now, no?<br />
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But dude If you survived THAT university, you are at least a hundred thousand places away from being a failure.. and are VERY competitive.<br />
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Had I read this story earlier, I would have recommended joining various industry/professional interest groups on the internet. They're a plenty. Plus there are so many venture capitalists out there who're looking for ideas and hire people too. And of course you must know about Linkedin.<br />
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I'm glad I read it. I know someone who's going through pretty much the same as you are but they've been keeping themselves well oiled even without a job :)

I feel your pain, I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must be for your age and younger comign out of college must feel going into a job market that frankly isn't there. Keep the faith there's something out there for everyone I firmly believe that!

Im sorry for ur situation. Sometimes i feel the same way, but sometimes the opposite!!! The best thing is to start somewhere, and not to give up. I used to give up for everything i started, and when i got stuck, i gave up. But now, when i found my passion, I'm starting to understand, that the way i use to think was wrong, cuz sumtimes, its not failing at life, its just not experiencing it. I use to be jobless, homeless ( got kicked out of house, had no money :(, no job ) I worked my way up, with a high school diploma, worked for 5$/hour, for 12-14 hours a day, 6 days a week, worked like a dog, was treated like one too. <br />
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Sometimes, i slept hungry, even after working for 12 hours, had to wait for my paycheck, cuz got paid every month, had rent, had debts, still have them, but now I'm in better condition then couple of years ago, im also doing college, pre-university courses. But now im making 20$/hour, 6 days, with school. And i still have so much time, that i do what im passionate bout!!! dancing!!! yup, twice a week, i take classes, for hip-hop, and b-boy (break dancing, havent started any classes for that, just practicing by myself)<br />
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Yes, did so many wrong things, and was a bad person but those bad experiences made me who i am, made me stronger, patient, smarter, and a better person. If you want your dream to be reality, you gotta work for it, otherwise, it will remain a dream, and yes its hard and long. Even now, sometimes, i feel depressed, but i try to overcome, by doing what i like best, dancing :). Challenges are made for human, cuz, life teaches us, we dont teach life. <br />
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Stick to a plan, make a schedule if u can. There is many ways u can look for a job. Get any job for now, i mean, not mcdonalds, but im pretty sure, at a bank or sumthing, u have college diploma, even customer service will hire u, or any other telecommunications, so at least u will start earning sumthing, cuz sumthing is better than nothing,and u will feel better about urself!!! While u working, u can still look for ur internship, or for a job in ur field. There is always a solution to every problem, we just gotta find it, and especially if u lose hope. Cuz "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away” So waste no time, and live life to the fullest, cuz every minute wasted in wondering, is a minute less of ur life!!! Peace, Abdul!!!

am a young man of 30 year old,

Hey. Firstly, congrats. After ages of study, being unemployed just sucks. I really do empathise with you, but like Kaze said, it's not you that failed. You've done everything you can. Society sucks dude. The job market sucks at the moment. My only advice I can give you is to tell you what really helped me. I'm from New Zealand, and I spent my savings getting myself to the US. I worked in Seattle for 3 months and just did my own stuff for a while to get a fresh perspective. The pay wasn't great as I was working at Starbucks, but I was able to just get away from the rat race and just tune into myself again.<br />
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Of course, you don't have to go to Seattle, but maybe a change of scenery would do you some good... maybe get a stupid dead end job to save for a while then go. I fully recommend it. <br />
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You've made it this far, don't give up in yourself, just take a break and figure out who you are again.. You've earnt it.

Yes, you're right it's society that has failed me. No one around me understands what I'm going through, not even my parents. I don't want my introvertism to lock me up in my bedroom, forever. I want to do something with this life and whatever I opt, my parents turn down. They think it's all right if I don't get work, they're supporting me and will always support me, as if it's just the money that I want from job. Slowly, I'm losing interest in things once I liked. I know what I like and what I am naturally like but, pretty much losing it all and turning into a timid, highly antisocial, misanthrope sort of being.<br />
Thank you so much for your time :)<br />
I'm glad you read my story and commented.

I am sorry about your situation. But its not you that has failed at life but more like this life or society has failed you. I can't tell you things will get better or everything will be okay... At this point it may seem like your mind is rusting and you are gradually losing parts of yourself. But you must maintain that analytical mind that I'm assuming you have and continue to be aggressive in your life. Do not be concerned about the next person and the ridiculous notion of competition that we were all raised and trained to believe in throughout our "educational careers". What is "normal" these days anyways? If you heard my story I am far from "normal" by societal standards, but this is about you.You have a perfect opportunity to reinvent yourself to self-reflect and improve, find your "true-self" not the one you were pretending to be when you were in school but the child (no offense if taken). A true swords quality is not only determined by raw materials but the fire that it must endure. Only then will you find peace to quiet your raging soul... <br />
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Peace be with you,