I myself was once involved in a violent relationship. It was my very first serious relationship and I thought it was natural I say my father beat my mother. I thought that's what people in love do. When I was beat in in front of my one year old child I realized I didn't what her to see what I saw happening to my mother happening to me and for her to think it was natural and okay. I loved him and still loves him I didn't want to leave him I felt that he loved me and he was beating me out of love. Being a battered woman is scary because you never know which blow will be the blow that kills you.